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What do you do when a girl puts you on a pedastool??

MattS

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What do you do when a girl puts you on a pedestool?

This girl that I am currently talking too is putting me on a pedestool. I’ve had girls do this to me a couple of times but probably not as bad as this. I mean like the way she talks makes me feel like a god to her for some reason. She’s always says things;
“Yea I didn’t think you were going to come talk to me but I can’t believe you did”
“god you are so ****y but I like that”
“I can’t take you anywhere where you know everyone”
“You’re cute and you know it”
She also usually tells me to call her meaning she wants to see if I will actually call her. And I actually do just to show some interest and also if I feel her IL gets low ill be able to just take it away.
And on top of that sh*t she knows a lot of things about me. She heard everything from mutual people before we sort of started talking but the point is it seems like she has been after me for like 2 years. “yea don’t you remember when I saw you but you were always with some girls” “I heard you’re good in bed.” I think she tells her friends a lot of things about me too cause they come up too me and say things.

I don’t know she might just like blowing up guy’s heads to get them to like her and chase her. But I can kind of sense that she might be doing it also because she honestly can’t believe I'm talking to her. Last weekend I was in her bed and she said “oh my god I can’t believe your laying here with me I would’ve never pictured this” I was like wtf. she wanted to mess around but I was like I’m not some easy dude, guess this made me even more on a pedestool to her.
Right now I’m running some tests on her to see what she wants and is about. So I guess if she calls me then she wants something because I’m sure as hell not going to call her at all anymore. I contacted the last couple times to show her a lot of attention and then I am going to take it away from her and see what she actually does. I’m trying to push/pull her right now. How do I handle this? I’m trying to figure out why she is blowing up my head like crazy whenever I see her. Is she doing it to get me to chase her or does she genuinely want something with me. I guess ill find out this weekend and see if she calls me and if she doesn’t then I’ll just next her. Any other suggestions on how I should act about her blowing up my head and putting me on a pedastool?
 
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Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

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are you fvcking kidding me? :eek:

comic_relief
 

vorbis

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Have you banged her?
If not, why not???
I'd just go along with it, don't big yourself up too much. But in general, the situation is sweeet!
 

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Macgyver said:
You're in friends zone.
uh...ban this guy. Macgyver you give ****ty advice. Straight from the ****in turd bag.


Dude, all lights are GREEN.
 

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I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

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Never let her see the way you believe the word pedestal is spelt.
 

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I couldve banged her a little bit ago, in her bed and everything just didnt want to give it right then. Im proceeding wtih caution with her cause theres something about her that makes me think twice so im trying to get a fuller picture of how she is.
 

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Nighthawk said:
Never let her see the way you believe the word pedestal is spelt.
LOL



It's always uncomfortable when someone is clingy. I ended a short fling with a girl because she did that. Nothing else to do I think, just end it, and she'll learn and be wiser with the next guy.
 

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from what you posted, she seems like a stalker to me, a stalker with self esteem problems,I dont think you'll have a problem banging her, but she seems like she would go all crazy if you try to break up with her.
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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