"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What do you do when a girl puts you on a pedastool??

MattS

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What do you do when a girl puts you on a pedestool?

This girl that I am currently talking too is putting me on a pedestool. I’ve had girls do this to me a couple of times but probably not as bad as this. I mean like the way she talks makes me feel like a god to her for some reason. She’s always says things;
“Yea I didn’t think you were going to come talk to me but I can’t believe you did”
“god you are so ****y but I like that”
“I can’t take you anywhere where you know everyone”
“You’re cute and you know it”
She also usually tells me to call her meaning she wants to see if I will actually call her. And I actually do just to show some interest and also if I feel her IL gets low ill be able to just take it away.
And on top of that sh*t she knows a lot of things about me. She heard everything from mutual people before we sort of started talking but the point is it seems like she has been after me for like 2 years. “yea don’t you remember when I saw you but you were always with some girls” “I heard you’re good in bed.” I think she tells her friends a lot of things about me too cause they come up too me and say things.

I don’t know she might just like blowing up guy’s heads to get them to like her and chase her. But I can kind of sense that she might be doing it also because she honestly can’t believe I'm talking to her. Last weekend I was in her bed and she said “oh my god I can’t believe your laying here with me I would’ve never pictured this” I was like wtf. she wanted to mess around but I was like I’m not some easy dude, guess this made me even more on a pedestool to her.
Right now I’m running some tests on her to see what she wants and is about. So I guess if she calls me then she wants something because I’m sure as hell not going to call her at all anymore. I contacted the last couple times to show her a lot of attention and then I am going to take it away from her and see what she actually does. I’m trying to push/pull her right now. How do I handle this? I’m trying to figure out why she is blowing up my head like crazy whenever I see her. Is she doing it to get me to chase her or does she genuinely want something with me. I guess ill find out this weekend and see if she calls me and if she doesn’t then I’ll just next her. Any other suggestions on how I should act about her blowing up my head and putting me on a pedastool?
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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comic_relief

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are you fvcking kidding me? :eek:

comic_relief
 

vorbis

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Have you banged her?
If not, why not???
I'd just go along with it, don't big yourself up too much. But in general, the situation is sweeet!
 

Potbelly

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Macgyver said:
You're in friends zone.
uh...ban this guy. Macgyver you give ****ty advice. Straight from the ****in turd bag.


Dude, all lights are GREEN.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Nighthawk

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Never let her see the way you believe the word pedestal is spelt.
 

MattS

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I couldve banged her a little bit ago, in her bed and everything just didnt want to give it right then. Im proceeding wtih caution with her cause theres something about her that makes me think twice so im trying to get a fuller picture of how she is.
 

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Nighthawk said:
Never let her see the way you believe the word pedestal is spelt.
LOL



It's always uncomfortable when someone is clingy. I ended a short fling with a girl because she did that. Nothing else to do I think, just end it, and she'll learn and be wiser with the next guy.
 

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from what you posted, she seems like a stalker to me, a stalker with self esteem problems,I dont think you'll have a problem banging her, but she seems like she would go all crazy if you try to break up with her.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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