"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What do you do/say when a girl tells you she likes you?

bballkilla

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I was on the phone with a girl and she told me that she liked me. I just said "_____, how were you expecting me to react to this?" and she just says "I don't know."

If it was a girl that I didn't like, I wouldn't be asking this because I would have no problem shaking her, but I actually wouldn't mind getting with this girl. This has happened to me before, but I wanna know how exactly should I respond. Should I try to act indifferent, like I don't really care, or should I give in and tell her I like her also?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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sexy_kuta

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tell her the truth but not all of it

it all depends how long u been "dating"

usually 1-2 months i would tell her that i enjoy hanging around with her

but if you dont know and you feel that its too early to say.. just reply

"oh thats good to hear, I dont blame you :p" then laugh a lil or smile if in person

thats it.. ONly if she asks what U feel about her..

reply with.. "stick around and you'll find out"

its really not her business. its your opinion.. you dont have to tell her so dont think that its mean..
 

vorbis

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Don't tell her in words, tell her in actions. Keep it casual, go for a few drinks and aim to kiss close her at the end of the night. It should be gravy if she likes you.
 

Jariel

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vorbis said:
Don't tell her in words, tell her in actions. Keep it casual, go for a few drinks and aim to kiss close her at the end of the night. It should be gravy if she likes you.
I agree! Actions speak louder than words, so hold back from telling her anything for now, keep her guessing and then surprise her with a kiss. That is your chance to really blow her away and leave a lasting impression!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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MetalFortress

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bballkilla said:
I was on the phone with a girl and she told me that she liked me. I just said "_____, how were you expecting me to react to this?" and she just says "I don't know."

If it was a girl that I didn't like, I wouldn't be asking this because I would have no problem shaking her, but I actually wouldn't mind getting with this girl. This has happened to me before, but I wanna know how exactly should I respond. Should I try to act indifferent, like I don't really care, or should I give in and tell her I like her also?
The truth is, there's nothing wrong with showing interest. Just take her out, have fun, get to know her, and see where it can go.

Unlike most of the clown school dropouts here, I have no problem letting a girl know if I like her. You just have to keep it under control and not let your emotions take control of you, which is what the rule is generally there to prevent.
 

[S]alvatore

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If she told you in person you should've said "Let's find out", and kissed her. Or if you wouldn't have the balls to do that, you could've said something like: "Who doesn't" or "You're not the only one" etc etc.
 

john_1234

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the last time a girl told me she liked me, i said, "you're moving a little too fast for me" in a joking way. she laughed and it seemed to even amplify the attraction more. i read the other responses and i'll definitely give those suggestions a try. i can see the following scenario working out well: she expresses her feelings; you just maintain eye contact w/out saying a word and kiss her.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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