"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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driveon

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I have 3 questions. The first one is in the title. I got a ton of stuff going on but none of its fun, it's all stuff thats "productive." This has to change but it's going to be hard because the stuff I do is hard-programmed into my brain... Habits are hard to break.


The second one: Anyone here a perfectionist? It's really hard to let go of this attitude and I think I need to if I don't want to have a stress-induced stroke while dealing with women.

Third: Does anyone have any experience in overcoming perfectionism?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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penkitten

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i think you should join a gym. its fun and it gets you in shape.

as for the perfection thing, honey let it go. unperfect is perfect.
things dont always go as planned and the sooner you realize that and just accept that the better.
you can still be a neat , clean , orderly, guy who plans things well, however when things arent exactly the way you planned them, just tell yourself you did the best you could and try to see a bright side.

guess what? things go the way they are meant to.
even if it wasnt according to your plan, it went to gods plan or the plan of the universe .. whichever you choose to believe.
all things end up on the proper path.

this is a good reason to just stop worrying so much.

worry and stress cause health problems you dont need.

hope that helps a little.
 

Inquire

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i work out or write lyrics. i was once a perfectionist, but i got it through my head, what would happen to the world if i do this? nothing absolutely nothing. if it isnt a big thang then who cares if its perfect.
 

Austizzle

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1) Work out
2) Study
3) Read (for entertainment)
4) Pick up chicks
5) Bring them back to my room :rockon:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Kitsune

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1. Listen to music, call my mates, go out shopping, browse the web for interesting news, work on my pet project.

2. I was a perfectionist once, and still tries to be.

3. Continuous disappointment and self-reflection will do this, as well as not adopting a jerk attitude to life.
 

nishbuk

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1) train brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, and MMA fighting.
2) Study hard.
3) Work out at the gym.
3) Learn a new skill. Whatever meets my fancy at the time (Speed reading, billiards, singing, etc...)
4) Work on my social skills in relation to women.
5) Hang out with friends. (Usually working number 4 at the same time)
 

SELF-MASTERY

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easy i dont realy have any free time. Maybe a few hours every night between 12-3am, cant do shi.t for the next 8 months.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Enjin 7

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i do brazilian jiu jitsu too. i found something to do with my time is work out. like its something to do. ive gained weight. i feel better. that and study if that applies. also looking for new music.
 

blinkwatt

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1.play my guitar
2.work out some
3.hang with friends
4.sleep
 

zerocelcius

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The Bad Ass Canadian

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I don't really have any "spare" time.... I try and use it all up, doing things that are both productive, and fun.

It's very rare that I'll just lay out and watch TV.

I'm usually in my studio working, or writing new songs, or playing guitar or piano. (when we're not touring.)

I'll hit the gym every other day and go mountain biking and rollerblading as often as i can.

I've been reading alot, too.... it keeps the mind sharp. I have a goal to read a book a week. most of them or the literary classics of the 20th century.. I just read Slaughterhouse 5 by Vonnegut and now I'm on The Great Gatsby.... Next on the List is "As I lay Dying" by Faulkner.

I think it takes alot of discipline to keep busy, doing things that are healthy for the body and mind.... Laying around and eating junk food is way too easy.

One vice is that my workstation in my studio is hooked upn to the Net, so it's really easy to get distracted by Sosuave and other sites.....especially when I'm by myself doing edits. (god that can get boring!)
 

Black_Italian

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Since i got no job most of my time is free. So you would most likely Find me Sarging, having sex or on the net.

Ninja out
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Chrisman

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Drugs

Take some acid, that'll kill 9-12hrs of your day.
 

Life-Trainee

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1. Compose music
2. read
3. Jog or ride bike
4. Play computer games

I'm a perfectionist too but I freak out less if things don't turn out perfectly.
 

dannyc

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Apart from looking to get serious with a girl. I....

-Get high
-Play my Madden season
-Watch football (one week away!) and english soccer
-Play soccer
-Read the latest football and soccer news
-Make beats for my friend to spit on
-Messageboards
-Make money everyday (job and other avenues) for larger projects i got planned
-Listen to all the latest rap music on hiphopgame.com and download the latest albums.
-Watch a movie.
-Hit a club on a weekend.

This is a regular day for me. I fit most of this in one day (i only need 4 hours of sleep a day) but if not i make sure i do it the next day. Im getting a pool table put into my side room soon, so that shoudl be another thing occupying my time soon.

As i get older my priorities will change...but im still a 19 year old punk at the moment.
 
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Sloopy

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I spend most of my time just being awesome.

~Sloopy
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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