"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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what do women fear

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ElChoclo said:
They fear just about everything. Compared with a man, they live in a state of perpetual anxiety, which makes it easy for politicians to manipulate them. Which is why they weren't originally entitled to vote
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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There's a common thread though most of this list; everything leads to their fear of not being valued or accepted.
 

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Interceptor said:
Women fear the following circumstances with men:

Infidelity.
Dishonesty.
Lacking in good parenting skills.
Not performing one's share of the work in the relationship.
Not maintaing appearance.
Abusive verbally and/or physically.
Inflexible.
Lazy, not wanting to stay gainfully employed.
Lacking in compassion and sensitivity.
Secretly hidden unfavorable behaviors.
Non committal.
Inability to make decisions.
Unable to maintain love and affection, and the desired amount of attention over the long term.
Eventually losing one's masculinity in favor of appeasement to the woman. Basically handing your nuts over to her.
Secretly lacking "take charge", leadership traits.
Sexually inexperienced, so the woman will feel uncomfortable heading into a consistent sexual relationship because she may be more experienced, and thus may also want to try kinkier things. She may not want to feel "dirty" or "slutty" by secretly having certain sexual fantasies fulfilled(really, the fear of having her fantasies unfulfilled due to the inexperience of the man), and may find it very hard to be compatible with a man with sex "issues".
A good list but these are only symptoms of the fear of insecurity. While men's fear of rejection colors his mental schemas and the resultant decisions he makes accordingly, it is a woman's fear of insecurity that colors her own. Women greatly fear insecurity and make long term decisions based on a man's ability to provide it - up to and including her providing it for herself when a man is unable or unwilling to provide it for her. An indefinite lack of security is what women fear.
 

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These might overlap with insecurity:

- Fear of being judged (most guys could give a sh!t less, most women freak)
- Fear of being physically harmed / disfigured
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Sir Juanalot said:
Or a spider :D
we can squish spiders just fine, its the mice with the teeth and they run so dang fast and squeal... ewww
 
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