:crackup:ElChoclo said:They fear just about everything. Compared with a man, they live in a state of perpetual anxiety, which makes it easy for politicians to manipulate them. Which is why they weren't originally entitled to vote
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
:crackup:ElChoclo said:They fear just about everything. Compared with a man, they live in a state of perpetual anxiety, which makes it easy for politicians to manipulate them. Which is why they weren't originally entitled to vote
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
A good list but these are only symptoms of the fear of insecurity. While men's fear of rejection colors his mental schemas and the resultant decisions he makes accordingly, it is a woman's fear of insecurity that colors her own. Women greatly fear insecurity and make long term decisions based on a man's ability to provide it - up to and including her providing it for herself when a man is unable or unwilling to provide it for her. An indefinite lack of security is what women fear.Interceptor said:Women fear the following circumstances with men:
Infidelity.
Dishonesty.
Lacking in good parenting skills.
Not performing one's share of the work in the relationship.
Not maintaing appearance.
Abusive verbally and/or physically.
Inflexible.
Lazy, not wanting to stay gainfully employed.
Lacking in compassion and sensitivity.
Secretly hidden unfavorable behaviors.
Non committal.
Inability to make decisions.
Unable to maintain love and affection, and the desired amount of attention over the long term.
Eventually losing one's masculinity in favor of appeasement to the woman. Basically handing your nuts over to her.
Secretly lacking "take charge", leadership traits.
Sexually inexperienced, so the woman will feel uncomfortable heading into a consistent sexual relationship because she may be more experienced, and thus may also want to try kinkier things. She may not want to feel "dirty" or "slutty" by secretly having certain sexual fantasies fulfilled(really, the fear of having her fantasies unfulfilled due to the inexperience of the man), and may find it very hard to be compatible with a man with sex "issues".
with a mouse in the house.STR8UP said:A woman's ONLY fear is of being alone.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
we can squish spiders just fine, its the mice with the teeth and they run so dang fast and squeal... ewwwSir Juanalot said:Or a spider![]()