"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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what do women fear

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ElChoclo said:
They fear just about everything. Compared with a man, they live in a state of perpetual anxiety, which makes it easy for politicians to manipulate them. Which is why they weren't originally entitled to vote
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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There's a common thread though most of this list; everything leads to their fear of not being valued or accepted.
 

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Women fear the following circumstances with men:

Infidelity.
Dishonesty.
Lacking in good parenting skills.
Not performing one's share of the work in the relationship.
Not maintaing appearance.
Abusive verbally and/or physically.
Inflexible.
Lazy, not wanting to stay gainfully employed.
Lacking in compassion and sensitivity.
Secretly hidden unfavorable behaviors.
Non committal.
Inability to make decisions.
Unable to maintain love and affection, and the desired amount of attention over the long term.
Eventually losing one's masculinity in favor of appeasement to the woman. Basically handing your nuts over to her.
Secretly lacking "take charge", leadership traits.
Sexually inexperienced, so the woman will feel uncomfortable heading into a consistent sexual relationship because she may be more experienced, and thus may also want to try kinkier things. She may not want to feel "dirty" or "slutty" by secretly having certain sexual fantasies fulfilled(really, the fear of having her fantasies unfulfilled due to the inexperience of the man), and may find it very hard to be compatible with a man with sex "issues".
A good list but these are only symptoms of the fear of insecurity. While men's fear of rejection colors his mental schemas and the resultant decisions he makes accordingly, it is a woman's fear of insecurity that colors her own. Women greatly fear insecurity and make long term decisions based on a man's ability to provide it - up to and including her providing it for herself when a man is unable or unwilling to provide it for her. An indefinite lack of security is what women fear.
 

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These might overlap with insecurity:

- Fear of being judged (most guys could give a sh!t less, most women freak)
- Fear of being physically harmed / disfigured
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Sir Juanalot said:
Or a spider :D
we can squish spiders just fine, its the mice with the teeth and they run so dang fast and squeal... ewww
 
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