"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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When girls put in their dating profiles and stuff that they're looking for a guy "who knows what he wants and how to get it." What exactly do they mean? Are they talking about like career goals and stuff or more like a guy who knows what he wants from the girl and how to go for it (like a real DJ would)
And how does one present themselves as someone who knows what they want and how to get it.
I figured some of you guys could help translate this "********"
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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PrinceAli said:
When girls put in their dating profiles and stuff that they're looking for a guy "who knows what he wants and how to get it." What exactly do they mean? Are they talking about like career goals and stuff or more like a guy who knows what he wants from the girl and how to go for it (like a real DJ would)
And how does one present themselves as someone who knows what they want and how to get it.
I figured some of you guys could help translate this "********"
it means they want you to be a man, 'nuff said
 

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What exactly do they mean? Are they talking about like career goals and stuff or more like a guy who knows what he wants from the girl and how to go for it (like a real DJ would)


All of the above.
They are looking for a masculine man, instead of the 'Everybody Loves Ramon' or 'King of Queens' type of goofs you see every day.
 

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Anyone notice how every damn dad on TV shytcoms from Homer Simpson to Al Bundy is an inept, bumbling, Beta/Omega moron who fears their own wives? In other words, total AFCs?

A generation ago, dads were the rock solid bedstones of their households with strong character... Now, whatever happened to the strong, Alpha male dad?

My, we've come a looong way in a short time, baby!
 

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wayword said:
Anyone notice how every damn dad on TV shytcoms from Homer Simpson to Al Bundy is an inept, bumbling, Beta/Omega moron who fears their own wives? In other words, total AFCs?

A generation ago, dads were the rock solid bedstones of their households with strong character... Now, whatever happened to the strong, Alpha male dad?

My, we've come a looong way in a short time, baby!
AFCs are good for the butts of jokes, that's why. Strong, confident men with excellent character who are well-spoken, successful, and dominant are the ones making the jokes :)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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hi2u said:
AFCs are good for the butts of jokes, that's why. Strong, confident men with excellent character who are well-spoken, successful, and dominant are the ones making the jokes :)
I agree. However, the TV shytcom dads of a generation ago were all far more alpha and respected within their households...even just on TV.

Think of the slow slide from "I Love Lucy," "I Dream Of Jeanie" & "Bewitched"...
To "The Brady Bunch..."
To Homer Simpson & "Family Guy" now.

You see the "progression" here?

Hell, you wanna know the BIGGEST AFC in modern media?

KING KONG!

A 25' ape that can smash T-Rex's...loses his head and goes apenuts over some cheap floozy that can do some cartwheels ("wow"). He takes her on a sappy date sliding around an icy lake and ultimately sacrifices his life at her altar of vaginahood. Without even ever getting a KISS, much less an F-CLOSE! Now, talk about TERMINAL AFC ONEITIS!!!! :down:

Does anyone else see all the propaganda we are all DROWNED in here?
 

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A man who takes what he wants. What does it mean? Pretty much a guy who knows what he wants to do in life and is working towards it with all his focus and energy. Could even be a preacher, and so his main priority in life is preaching or becoming one, not women or not sitting on the couch and watching TV all day. It is a guy with amibitions, and his amibitions/dreams are his main focus in life and nothing else comes ahead of them.
 

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Sometimes, you see women go for some real losers. And you ask them, what they see in those guys? You might get answers like, cos he knew what he wanted. In cases like these, the guy has taken the lead with things, hes asked the women out, or hes kissed her out of the blue while they were just talking, he hasn't been playing games with her and pretty much just went for what he wanted.
 

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wayword said:
Anyone notice how every damn dad on TV shytcoms from Homer Simpson to Al Bundy is an inept, bumbling, Beta/Omega moron who fears their own wives? In other words, total AFCs?
They are more easily accepted by the masses than individuals who don't fit the stereotypical norm.
 

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PrinceAli said:
When girls put in their dating profiles and stuff that they're looking for a guy "who knows what he wants and how to get it." What exactly do they mean? Are they talking about like career goals and stuff or more like a guy who knows what he wants from the girl and how to go for it (like a real DJ would)
And how does one present themselves as someone who knows what they want and how to get it.
I figured some of you guys could help translate this "********"
It's really not ********. What is there NOT to like about someone who knows what he wants and how to get it? Those kinds of people are usually pretty successful, powerful people.

You can't go out and get the things that "people who know what they want and how to get it" have and expect to be as good as them unless you BECOME one of them. There's no translation here. What do you want in life? How do you plan to get it? Can you answer those two questions?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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