"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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What do make of these texts?

TIC

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Met her at a club last week, we hung out all day yesterday, got to know each other.

Just had this texting session with her:

(started with texts back and forth, how was the party, how was breakfast, blah blah. Then...
Me: I hope I didn't wear you out yesterday haha
Her: no chance. i workout
Me: Oh yea thats right how silly of me. You have alot of stamina that's good :)
Her: :-D

Can anyone make anything out of this? I can't tell where I'm at with her. Did not kiss close the date last night but we did have a decent time and talked alot.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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kingsam

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its called "flirting"

Q1 - you spent all day on a date?!?
Q2 - why didnt you kiss her? is she really traditional/conservative?
 

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so let me get this straight....you met her at a club did nothing, then hung out with her all day and did nothing AGAIN. WTF are you waiting for dude?

Stop analyzing and start acting....
 

TIC

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kingsam said:
its called "flirting"

Q1 - you spent all day on a date?!?
Q2 - why didnt you kiss her? is she really traditional/conservative?
Yes your good at spotting that. She is sort of religious. Now, I did ask her about it and she said she believes (non-denominational christian) but isn't THAT into it.

From talking with her she said "im not a slut" which leads me to believe she does not have meaningless sex, only with boyfriends.

Heres the thing abt the date yesterday. She stays on campus at a school downtown that I live near, so I arranged for us to meet at a cafe there. I drive there and we just end up hanging out on campus all day, and there wasn't much to do. She invited me to her dorm and stuff. I drove her to my campus a little while away, to show her my student life. Drove her back and said goodbye.

Couldn't gauge, at all, whether or not she wanted to be kissed. I didn't have any balls, I was focusing on keeping the convo going and showing that I'm not completely dull in personality. And I did very little keno
 

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TIC said:
Yes your good at spotting that. She is sort of religious. Now, I did ask her about it and she said she believes (non-denominational christian) but isn't THAT into it.
hormones always win againt religous indoctrination

From talking with her she said "im not a slut" which leads me to believe she does not have meaningless sex, only with boyfriends.
this is her ASD, most girls are worried about being "judged", so make sure she knows she wont be "judged", and its natural, and shes amazing sexy (fluff talk..etc) do some BSing...

Heres the thing abt the date yesterday. She stays on campus at a school downtown that I live near, so I arranged for us to meet at a cafe there. I drive there and we just end up hanging out on campus all day, and there wasn't much to do. She invited me to her dorm and stuff. I drove her to my campus a little while away, to show her my student life. Drove her back and said goodbye.
shorter and sweeter next time, have male sexual intent (google "rsd male sexual intent"), lead more, be physical,

Couldn't gauge, at all, whether or not she wanted to be kissed. I didn't have any balls grow them :) , I was focusing on keeping the convo going and showing that I'm not completely dull in personality you are the catch. And I did very little keno
university is a time for banging lots of girls , not wasting time with PRUDE ones so step up, and if starts going nowhere drop it and move on ...

get her to go round yours for "movies" or whatever (she should understand what is going on) and you have to lead the physicality
you WILL encounter LMR with her, but thats easy to get round, it may take one or two goes to conquer... but progress each time ... girls live in the moment so

check out the links to RSD college FR's i posted in this thread
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=177844
lots of very good experiences to learn from
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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