"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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what do I make of this?

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papawapa

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Just met this chick the other day. Got her number, been texting. This afternoon she tells me she wants to have a conversation, can she call me. Delayed and called her, made small talk, built rapport. Talked to her again tonight and am not sure where I stand.

She says she wants to make new friends, doesnt want a relationship. But I get this vibe that she really does want a relationship and is just momentarily jaded.

We talked about my work, I travel a lot, and she asked me how I could have a relationship if I am always gone. She also said something about me getting some strange out on the road. She made it a point to let me know she has a booty call. Then later she said she hurt her neck today but didnt want to say how. I got her to tell me, it wasnt difficult at all, she said she did it masturbating this morning.

She responds quickly to texts and laughs at all my jokes. I know there is some level of attraction. But I am confused by the mixed messages.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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narcissist

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base her motives on her actions not her words..

shes interested, but sh1t testing u.. dont fvck up
 
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Purefilth

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narcissist said:
base her motives on her actions not her words..

shes interested, but sh1t testing u.. dont fvck up
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Don't fvck up? wrong - YOU should be testing HER, not the other way around - just because she shows a little interest she gets your head in a tizz.

for a narcissist you sure have a lot to learn about self preservation.

Yes judge by actions, not words - ruling here is



ATTENTION WH0RE - NEXT!!
 
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HyperAnalyze

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The only real way is to invite her out and escalate.

Don't waste time with this friendship conversation BS.

If she feels comfortable talking about her masturbating and not giving you any good signals that's a sign that something fishy is going on.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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El Suave

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Exactly what HyperAnalyze said. She wants to bang. Don't waste time with BS and give her what she wants. :cheer:
 
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Albatross953

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Totally agree she's baiting you. Call her bluff. Escalate.

I had one this week complain to me about showering alone, but she went ghost when I escalated. Sometimes its just for attention.
 
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