"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The same girl in my last post found out her boyfriend of one year cheated on her. Well apparently she likes me but the problem is she hasn't broken up with her boyfriend yet. She told me that he gives her a lot of excuses and that she feels sorry for him.

This girl is super cute and I'd like to date. Her friend (who is also mine) told me that they were passing notes and she said that I was her type blah blah.

So what do I do? am i just being used or do you think she actually would rather be with me than that other guy?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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^That.

If her boyfriend cheated on her, all she needs is for you to kiss her, for you to do SOMETHING, so that she has the green light to leave him. She just wants to know she'll have someone else that cares about her if they break up.

It's a ticking clock, the cheating can only work as a break up excuse for a short time. GO.
 
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Damn you guys are right. it's already been close to two weeks and We wont get to see each other until school in 3 days. Instead of waiting and making a move after a date, Should I just straight up kiss her in the hall? or kiss her on the cheek at school then go for a kiss after our trip to the gym?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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UPDATE:

All right, this girl still hasnt broken up with her boyfriend (who cheated on her). Her friends are telling me she likes me but just wants to feel wanted and is attached to him. They told me to be patient since it was a 1 year long relationship.
Well I got tired of waiting so this past week I've been walking her to class and just talking the normal BS. I go to hold her hand and she rejects, of course because people would tell the BF.

Now I get uninterested, the next day I just go off an do my own thing she sees me talking to other girls. so maybe that will convince her to hurry up. I can't be having these everyday conversations, I'm running out of things to say and I'm not the most entertaining guy.

Am I just supposed to wait this one out or what? She shows all the signs of interest but I am confused as to what I should do to get her and escalate.
 
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Talk is cheap. Why talk so much and analyze so much?
Just try.. ask her out --> I'm interested. See how she responds and adapt.

What is it with this standing in line for a girl mentality, guys? I seriously doubt that... nevermind.. I wouldn't do it.

Here is a story for you: 3 years ago.. a friend was into this girl. She had a boyfriend. He became kind of a stalker and you know what he said to me one day:" I hope that sometime I will be on that list of hers".. the list of boyfriends. I find that sad.
Later she broke up with her bf. He went out with her ( didn't ask her out) and just hang out with her a couple of times. He made a grandious plan and told her how he felt. He was rejected of course and it was all over.
 
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kevin1198 said:
Now I get uninterested, the next day I just go off an do my own thing she sees me talking to other girls. so maybe that will convince her to hurry up. I can't be having these everyday conversations, I'm running out of things to say and I'm not the most entertaining guy.
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Correct strategy.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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