"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The same girl in my last post found out her boyfriend of one year cheated on her. Well apparently she likes me but the problem is she hasn't broken up with her boyfriend yet. She told me that he gives her a lot of excuses and that she feels sorry for him.

This girl is super cute and I'd like to date. Her friend (who is also mine) told me that they were passing notes and she said that I was her type blah blah.

So what do I do? am i just being used or do you think she actually would rather be with me than that other guy?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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^That.

If her boyfriend cheated on her, all she needs is for you to kiss her, for you to do SOMETHING, so that she has the green light to leave him. She just wants to know she'll have someone else that cares about her if they break up.

It's a ticking clock, the cheating can only work as a break up excuse for a short time. GO.
 
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Damn you guys are right. it's already been close to two weeks and We wont get to see each other until school in 3 days. Instead of waiting and making a move after a date, Should I just straight up kiss her in the hall? or kiss her on the cheek at school then go for a kiss after our trip to the gym?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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UPDATE:

All right, this girl still hasnt broken up with her boyfriend (who cheated on her). Her friends are telling me she likes me but just wants to feel wanted and is attached to him. They told me to be patient since it was a 1 year long relationship.
Well I got tired of waiting so this past week I've been walking her to class and just talking the normal BS. I go to hold her hand and she rejects, of course because people would tell the BF.

Now I get uninterested, the next day I just go off an do my own thing she sees me talking to other girls. so maybe that will convince her to hurry up. I can't be having these everyday conversations, I'm running out of things to say and I'm not the most entertaining guy.

Am I just supposed to wait this one out or what? She shows all the signs of interest but I am confused as to what I should do to get her and escalate.
 
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Talk is cheap. Why talk so much and analyze so much?
Just try.. ask her out --> I'm interested. See how she responds and adapt.

What is it with this standing in line for a girl mentality, guys? I seriously doubt that... nevermind.. I wouldn't do it.

Here is a story for you: 3 years ago.. a friend was into this girl. She had a boyfriend. He became kind of a stalker and you know what he said to me one day:" I hope that sometime I will be on that list of hers".. the list of boyfriends. I find that sad.
Later she broke up with her bf. He went out with her ( didn't ask her out) and just hang out with her a couple of times. He made a grandious plan and told her how he felt. He was rejected of course and it was all over.
 
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kevin1198 said:
Now I get uninterested, the next day I just go off an do my own thing she sees me talking to other girls. so maybe that will convince her to hurry up. I can't be having these everyday conversations, I'm running out of things to say and I'm not the most entertaining guy.
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Correct strategy.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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