Hey I'm new to this but I'm jack, Im 16. Im having problems with girls...basically it seems like there's no girls out there that want to talk to me or are interested in me.girls tell me I'm cute/good looking but why can't I get a girlfriend? I haven't had a girlfriend In almost 2 yrs btw. But anyways I'm not the most confident guy kind of self conscious and shy but once people get to know me I'm really funny, cool to hang out with and stuff. But no girls are intersested in contacting me/talking to me in person or on Facebook. So I guess my question is, what do I need to change to get girls? Like, what's the key? I'll email you a pic of me if you ask. I really need constructive critisizm right now. Thanks a lot
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
what do i do?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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I really have a workload to get through right now, but I'll get back to you later!
The main key that is missing in your paragraph above is LEADERSHIP. You're not taking ACTION, but rather reacting and waiting for girl to come to YOU. You should be the one making the bold moves, as it is not in a girl's nature to do so.
The main key that is missing in your paragraph above is LEADERSHIP. You're not taking ACTION, but rather reacting and waiting for girl to come to YOU. You should be the one making the bold moves, as it is not in a girl's nature to do so.
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Jack, you could always add more details to your situation to get less general and better advice.
BillieAnn, would you just reply once more, just to make sure you're not a bot? Sorry, just making sure
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BillieAnn, would you just reply once more, just to make sure you're not a bot? Sorry, just making sure
Night!
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Why bother, man? you want to end up a daddy at age 18, never have anything, go anywhere, or do anything? Avoid the chicks until you have beein overseas in the military, and then SEE if you still "think" that you want a US woman.
Like for instance, on facebook a girl will tell me I'm cute but when I try to start a conversation they give me one or two word responses and just aren't interested. And when me and a couple friends go to the mall and meet a few girls I'm always the third wheel. The girls don't show any interest in me at all. I really want to know what I can change becayse I'm sick of being rejected
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I'm guessing you're probably quite and observe the situation, waiting for the time to make a move? You're in your head thinking of what to say?
Anyway, just take iniative and go for it. It is very, very, VERRRRRRYYYY rarely smooth. It is usually awkard as fcuk to make a move on a girl IME... From my side. For most girls they expect it and no matter what move you make it is the fact it is a move which counts. Everything else is just learning which moves actually work for you, learning how to skip them... I'm making this sound like chess, it isn't conscious really. This isn't about planning or analysing, it is about FEELING. It is all about a girls feelings for you and your feelings for them. It isn't about doing x,y,z. It is about being confident and going for what you feel like. The purpose of all this material is to check if you're on the right path. To make sure you are developing core confidence you can look at trends. But ultimately, it all comes down to you.
Lolollool repeated useNorwegianDJ said:
Anyway, just take iniative and go for it. It is very, very, VERRRRRRYYYY rarely smooth. It is usually awkard as fcuk to make a move on a girl IME... From my side. For most girls they expect it and no matter what move you make it is the fact it is a move which counts. Everything else is just learning which moves actually work for you, learning how to skip them... I'm making this sound like chess, it isn't conscious really. This isn't about planning or analysing, it is about FEELING. It is all about a girls feelings for you and your feelings for them. It isn't about doing x,y,z. It is about being confident and going for what you feel like. The purpose of all this material is to check if you're on the right path. To make sure you are developing core confidence you can look at trends. But ultimately, it all comes down to you.
I'll admit I think about going after a girl, instead of just doing it ALOT. But the problem is, i dont have the confidence to approach a girl, because I'm afraid of rejection...but I haven't really had any reason to go after girls considering they don't show any interest in me anymore..
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Action comes before confidence.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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Yadda, yadda, yadda. All the things people preach on here won't help you much.
Do you know what's the thing you have the most control over? Your looks. Do you think this kid has problems with girls? http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=728136&p=486113961&viewfull=1#post486113961 (i believe he was 15 in the right picture)
Do you know what's the thing you have the most control over? Your looks. Do you think this kid has problems with girls? http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=728136&p=486113961&viewfull=1#post486113961 (i believe he was 15 in the right picture)
Sorry if I left such an impression ..NorwegianDJ said:Jack, you could always add more details to your situation to get less general and better advice.
BillieAnn, would you just reply once more, just to make sure you're not a bot? Sorry, just making sure
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Simply a generic comment, no worries.BillieAnn said:
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Thread derailing, woop woop!
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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Jack at your age the single best thing you could do for your game is work out. At 16 you may not be a senior yet? Buddy, hit the gym and hit it hard. Make it your hobby, get into it. Try to workout twice a day go once for mass and again for cardio. Look up workout routines online, take supplements, eat high protein. It'll be a pain at first as it is for everyone, but after you get used to it you will start to look forward to those workouts big time, you will not want to quit. Because you are young you recover faster than older guys. Dude take advantage of this now.
Early on in my life I went through a workout phase and it was the best thing I ever did for myself, hands down. Your friends will respect you more, women will see that and your physique and get turned on to you.
It's almost like a social IWIN button...
Early on in my life I went through a workout phase and it was the best thing I ever did for myself, hands down. Your friends will respect you more, women will see that and your physique and get turned on to you.
It's almost like a social IWIN button...
workout is important, however as in anything it is important that you d it. If you don't do it, you don't do it.
The same is with the girl, if you don't initiate she will forget about you (if she's not interested in you). Nobody will make your guts grow for you.
The same is with the girl, if you don't initiate she will forget about you (if she's not interested in you). Nobody will make your guts grow for you.