Hey I'm new to this but I'm jack, Im 16. Im having problems with girls...basically it seems like there's no girls out there that want to talk to me or are interested in me.girls tell me I'm cute/good looking but why can't I get a girlfriend? I haven't had a girlfriend In almost 2 yrs btw. But anyways I'm not the most confident guy kind of self conscious and shy but once people get to know me I'm really funny, cool to hang out with and stuff. But no girls are intersested in contacting me/talking to me in person or on Facebook. So I guess my question is, what do I need to change to get girls? Like, what's the key? I'll email you a pic of me if you ask. I really need constructive critisizm right now. Thanks a lot
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
what do i do?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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I really have a workload to get through right now, but I'll get back to you later!
The main key that is missing in your paragraph above is LEADERSHIP. You're not taking ACTION, but rather reacting and waiting for girl to come to YOU. You should be the one making the bold moves, as it is not in a girl's nature to do so.
The main key that is missing in your paragraph above is LEADERSHIP. You're not taking ACTION, but rather reacting and waiting for girl to come to YOU. You should be the one making the bold moves, as it is not in a girl's nature to do so.
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Jack, you could always add more details to your situation to get less general and better advice.
BillieAnn, would you just reply once more, just to make sure you're not a bot? Sorry, just making sure
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BillieAnn, would you just reply once more, just to make sure you're not a bot? Sorry, just making sure
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Why bother, man? you want to end up a daddy at age 18, never have anything, go anywhere, or do anything? Avoid the chicks until you have beein overseas in the military, and then SEE if you still "think" that you want a US woman.
Like for instance, on facebook a girl will tell me I'm cute but when I try to start a conversation they give me one or two word responses and just aren't interested. And when me and a couple friends go to the mall and meet a few girls I'm always the third wheel. The girls don't show any interest in me at all. I really want to know what I can change becayse I'm sick of being rejected
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I'm guessing you're probably quite and observe the situation, waiting for the time to make a move? You're in your head thinking of what to say?
Anyway, just take iniative and go for it. It is very, very, VERRRRRRYYYY rarely smooth. It is usually awkard as fcuk to make a move on a girl IME... From my side. For most girls they expect it and no matter what move you make it is the fact it is a move which counts. Everything else is just learning which moves actually work for you, learning how to skip them... I'm making this sound like chess, it isn't conscious really. This isn't about planning or analysing, it is about FEELING. It is all about a girls feelings for you and your feelings for them. It isn't about doing x,y,z. It is about being confident and going for what you feel like. The purpose of all this material is to check if you're on the right path. To make sure you are developing core confidence you can look at trends. But ultimately, it all comes down to you.
Lolollool repeated useNorwegianDJ said:
Anyway, just take iniative and go for it. It is very, very, VERRRRRRYYYY rarely smooth. It is usually awkard as fcuk to make a move on a girl IME... From my side. For most girls they expect it and no matter what move you make it is the fact it is a move which counts. Everything else is just learning which moves actually work for you, learning how to skip them... I'm making this sound like chess, it isn't conscious really. This isn't about planning or analysing, it is about FEELING. It is all about a girls feelings for you and your feelings for them. It isn't about doing x,y,z. It is about being confident and going for what you feel like. The purpose of all this material is to check if you're on the right path. To make sure you are developing core confidence you can look at trends. But ultimately, it all comes down to you.
I'll admit I think about going after a girl, instead of just doing it ALOT. But the problem is, i dont have the confidence to approach a girl, because I'm afraid of rejection...but I haven't really had any reason to go after girls considering they don't show any interest in me anymore..
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Action comes before confidence.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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Yadda, yadda, yadda. All the things people preach on here won't help you much.
Do you know what's the thing you have the most control over? Your looks. Do you think this kid has problems with girls? http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=728136&p=486113961&viewfull=1#post486113961 (i believe he was 15 in the right picture)
Do you know what's the thing you have the most control over? Your looks. Do you think this kid has problems with girls? http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=728136&p=486113961&viewfull=1#post486113961 (i believe he was 15 in the right picture)
Sorry if I left such an impression ..NorwegianDJ said:Jack, you could always add more details to your situation to get less general and better advice.
BillieAnn, would you just reply once more, just to make sure you're not a bot? Sorry, just making sure
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Simply a generic comment, no worries.BillieAnn said:
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Thread derailing, woop woop!
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
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Jack at your age the single best thing you could do for your game is work out. At 16 you may not be a senior yet? Buddy, hit the gym and hit it hard. Make it your hobby, get into it. Try to workout twice a day go once for mass and again for cardio. Look up workout routines online, take supplements, eat high protein. It'll be a pain at first as it is for everyone, but after you get used to it you will start to look forward to those workouts big time, you will not want to quit. Because you are young you recover faster than older guys. Dude take advantage of this now.
Early on in my life I went through a workout phase and it was the best thing I ever did for myself, hands down. Your friends will respect you more, women will see that and your physique and get turned on to you.
It's almost like a social IWIN button...
Early on in my life I went through a workout phase and it was the best thing I ever did for myself, hands down. Your friends will respect you more, women will see that and your physique and get turned on to you.
It's almost like a social IWIN button...
workout is important, however as in anything it is important that you d it. If you don't do it, you don't do it.
The same is with the girl, if you don't initiate she will forget about you (if she's not interested in you). Nobody will make your guts grow for you.
The same is with the girl, if you don't initiate she will forget about you (if she's not interested in you). Nobody will make your guts grow for you.