What do I do in this Situation?

[Govin]

Hi all,

A bit long but I would really appreciate your help with this situation.

I am currently a finalist student at University in the UK. A few months back (March this year) I met a beautiful and smart Indian Student at a University event. During the event itself we had great rapport and it seemed to me that she was very interested in me. So I left the event with her number and a promise to meet up soon.

I contact her a week later asking her to come with me to a theatre show my friend was producing (University Theatre). She would love to do so, except she is about to board plane to the Dubai for the month (Easter Break). She said she would still love to meet up with me after she comes back. I texted her when she did come back, but clearly the interest had subsided. So I did what I believed was the right thing, and pulled back. I didn't contact her thereafter. Then we had our summer break. I went travelling through Europe and South Asia. Had a great time overall.

Came back to University in September, and I meet her in an event again. She is interested when I meet her in person and wants to meet up. I contact her and this time...no response from her. I stopped contacting her too. Suddenly a month later I received a text from her apologising for the late reply and inviting me to a social event she was hosting (she is the president of a business society). The text itself was written in a way that clearly showed interest in me.

I went to her event last night. She was very busy during the event itself, and I had at most a few minutes with her. However, she was again very happy to see me. We had good rapport during the time we were together and I elicited a promise to meet up. Like before.

What do I do? What I don't want is Deja vu all over again. I would sincerely like to meet up with her.

(1) Contact her today or tomorrow and arrange to meetup? (say for coffee)

(2) Wait for a few weeks before asking her out? ( Take her to a musical/theatre show)

(3) Don't ask her out?

 

[kello]

(1) Contact her today or tomorrow and arrange to meetup? (say for coffee). Action!

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

If the girl was interested in you she would have made time for you. She invited you to that dinner to get people there. Here is a tip I learned. Whenever a girl invites you to an invite or party where you won't be one on one with her always decline. Move to the next chick.

 

[Govin]

PrettyBoyAJ : You make a valid point, however we ended (again) on a very good terms, and she was receptive to my suggestion that just the two of us should meet.

kello : That's probably the best option.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Actions speak louder then words. What did her actions say when she didn't text you back for a month? What did her actions say when you met with her at her business dinner and she was busy the majority of the time?

 

[Govin]

The way you state it seems to make it pretty clear cut. However, I still want to arrange something, for the very last time. What would you suggesstion be? Contact her today or tomorrow, or in a few weeks.

 

[Nicholas]

Why would you wait few weeks? That's a lot of time you're gonna waste thinking about her.

 

[Govin]

Nicholas : Waiting was so that I could take her to a show (theatre) that I know she would enjoy, however I agree with you that waiting would be wrong this time.

 

[TopGun2000]

Her IL is low. Actions speak louder than words

 

[Nicholas]

Yes mate I understand you. But I'm just saying that you should consider if your efforts are much greater than they should be. I've been recently in very similar situation. I've been putting a lot of pressure upon myself to act and invite her out, planning and calculating. It was all pointless. It's simple, if she can't find time for you, you should look for one that can.

 

[Govin]

Nicholas : I agree with you, and I'll ask her out tomorrow for a coffee or so. If she comes she comes, if she doesn't she doesn't. That's that. No more mental masturbating over this situation.

Thanks all.