"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What do I do about this push-pull?

ryanbo29

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Hey everyone,

I'll try to make this brief..

I had sex with a girl I've been dating on the second date.. We also did on the third date.. But after that, things got a bit weird. The next time, a half week later, she told me she was "really tired" (it was 2am), then told me it was "actually, it's that time of the month." This was on Wednesday. So we go out on Saturday and we get back and she starts oral on me and won't let it go anywhere else. I'm drunk and I don't..finish so she gets upset. I explain she shouldn't be, etc. She apologizes about getting upset profusely the next day.. But in the next morning/early afternoon I try to make a few advances (heavy kissing, etc) and she seems to gracefully stop things before they get very far..

I totally respect a girl that wants to hold off.. but I don't get this at all.. What do you guys and gals think..

I want to believe it really "is that time of the month", but I don't think her period is going from (Tuesday?) Wednesday to Sunday. Besides, if you saw what she had on, you wouldn't think so either. It's not so much that I just want into her pants (though that's great).. I actually like her a lot

What do you Don Juans think is going on? Am I making much to do out of nothing?

Ryan
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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earthshyne

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Wimmen's periods are the bane of human existence. Not only are they uncomfortable for the wimmen involved, they can also make life for the guy a living hell.

Menstrual cycles can also be very irregular, so don't assume right away that she's feeding you a line. (I don't think that you made that assumption, but I mention that just to clarify.)

Could also be she has a yeast infection or something and doesn't feel like telling you about it. Or maybe she thinks she might have an STD. Or maybe she's rethinking the whole intercourse thing with you right now. Could even be that she has developed a dread fear of pregnancy.

Could also be that she's playing you.

My advice (though you didn't really ask for it, I'm great at giving out unsolicited pointers) is to avoid becoming pu55y-whipped at all costs. If you think she's yanking your chain, call her on it, and it's up to you to decide if she's being truthful or not.

Go with your instincts here, and good luck!
 

ryanbo29

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Do we really need to go by strict Don Juan dictionary terms? It's a generic way I described what I think might be going on.. She didn't have me, tried harder, has me more now, and now shes backing away from sex.
 
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