"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What? Did I just get LJBF? Yeah, Okay

HeyPachuco!

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I'm having trouble figuring out whats acually "Lets Just Be Friends" and "We're friends"

I was in a club with this girl, talking it up for about 2 hours (I should've opened other girls I know, but she interested me so much I totally broke the rules like a Lost lad) Later during the night, I took my drink to her mouth and asked her "to try some" she hesitated and then said "Were just friends" with a smile on her face. Me, partially tipsy, didn't take notice of whats he said at the time.

Maybe she was shy, nervous or thought I was making a move, yet she kisses me at the end of the night. I didnt ask for her number and gave her my card (Company card - which has my Facebook URL) on it. Why I didn't ask for the number for over 2 hours? I don't know, I didn't care at the time.

She sent this to my inbox after an exchange of Facebook messages.

" well hi there Mr Heypachuco, listen I gta get of this now but youve interested me so much that it would be my pleasure to give u my no even though the likely hood of us ever bein any more then friends it would be a cryin shame to loose touch 078*"

Does Were just friends translate to "I'm shy and nervous, I want to take it slow, so I'll label you this to catch you off guard? "

Did Heypachuco just get LJBF? :p http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V4w62pojCJQ
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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brekke

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I am not a dj, but I would say to ignore this girl. I can not stand people that can not spell anything correctly. :nono: She seems like a real idiot from that message.

I would send her something like "I don't want to be your friend", or "I have enough friends".

Honestly, what kind of guy can stand being friends with a girl? They are so annoying.
 

JLW

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That seems strange. You kissed her and all this other crap but she still thinks you're just "friends"? Maybe her idea of a friend is skewed. I say try it out.

I would agree with brekke that her spelling is incorrigible and it makes her seem very unintelligent and stupid. But if she was actually smart in person then I'm sure it's fine.
 

Funlol

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she is just saying that. Don't listen

you can clearly f close this girl. Her interest is high..
 

vatoloco

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Sounds like a basket case to me. Try to fclose her if you're looking into a quick lay but do not invest too much time or effort in her.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Kal0051

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Weird. Either she's just weird or there's something more you don't know. Maybe she has a serious boyfriend who she's planning on marrying but wants to keep you around for some reason. Maybe it's something else...
 

L B

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hmmm...body says one thing and the mouth says another. Which one do you trust? If she's worth the trouble, go for it. She might be shy or inexperienced. You won't know unless you try. Take her on a date as "friends," yeah that's it...and see.
 

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Reply: Ok, then ''friend''.. you wanna play hard to get, i will play along:)

Ignore the ''lets just be friends'' part.. Girls say and do stuff that they don't mean, sometimes when a girl says something she means the opposite of it, so a ''lets just be friends'' can mean ''take me hard''.. Most girls don't even know what they want, they send mixed signals all the time etc. until you've seduced them. I say keep going for her as long as you're around her. Be the man in charge, dude.. Don't let her friend-zone you. If you've watched the movie Scarface, Toni Montana keeps going for the blond chick even though she turns him down several times, It's just a movie but that's how you should do it. My best friends current girlfriend told him in the start ''I wanna take things slowly'' a week later he ****ed her, she is now hopelessly in love with him as I've seen.
 

OMGWTFLMAO

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She wants you to pursue her and she's giving you just enough encouragement to keep you interested. That translates to her being interested in someone else that she is holding out for, but she also wants to keep you hanging nearby to fall back on in case what she is pursuing doesn't work out. Basically, she's got you lined up behind some other guy.
 

vatoloco

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OMGWTFLMAO said:
She wants you to pursue her and she's giving you just enough encouragement to keep you interested. That translates to her being interested in someone else that she is holding out for, but she also wants to keep you hanging nearby to fall back on in case what she is pursuing doesn't work out. Basically, she's got you lined up behind some other guy.
It's a possibility. That's why he should try to f-close her (if he's interested in that) and make her show her hand asap. That way he doesn't waste his time if she's just stringing him along.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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