"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I recently met this girl on AOL sunday, and we end up talking that night and i told her i was coming through to chill with her on monday and she was like cool. So I went over there and she let me in and i ended up going to her room to chill. Anyway I lay down and she lays above me and i start feeling on her legs and ish and everything is cool. Then she's like lets go somewhere so we leave and go a few places and then we came back to her house and i start feelin on her again and i kiss her neck and **** but i had to cut all that short cause i had to pick someone up so i end up telling her that i was coming back to chill with her tomorrow which is today. So i call her this morning and she was sleep so i told her i would call her back and did at around 3 but she didnt answer the phone and i ended up gettin on AOL and she was on to so i holler at her and i ask her if i can comethrough tomorrow and she's like her homeboys want her to comeover tonight and i was like i guess, basically im gettin the feelin she aint feelin me no more.

SO MY QUESTION TO U GUYS IS WHERE DID I MESS UP AT?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Well it doesn't seem like she really gave you any reason to believe this. Guys need to remember that when a girl is really not interested, the signals that she sends are extrodinarily clear.

When you're pursuing a girl, things never....and I mean never....go perfectly. Just take the rest of the week off from her and give her a few days to miss you if you're starting to feel like she's starting to get tired of you.
 

Craig Reeves

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Well it doesn't seem like she really gave you any reason to believe this. Guys need to remember that when a girl is really not interested, the signals that she sends are extrodinarily clear.

When you're pursuing a girl, things never....and I mean never....go perfectly. Just take the rest of the week off from her and give her a few days to miss you if you're starting to feel like she's starting to get tired of you.
 

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Thanks, I think ur right, so i should just wait until next week to call her again or the end of this week cause she told she loves attention
 

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You're jumping too far ahead of yourself. Wait a few days before you try to contact her again. You're coming off as AFC in trying to get with her every day.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Well I mean if your just feeling as if she's kind of losing interest in you, yes try giving a few days to her where she can actually miss you. Time away can do wonders for a woman's IL.
 
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I'd say FUKKIT and move on dude. Go get more experience with other chicks. Unless eh's the godddamn mona lisa, dont bother.
 

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You called too much. You can't come off that strong when you're trying to start talking to a girl. She didn't see you as a challenge and just let you go. Basically, by her telling you that another guy was coming over, she was telling you that she's not all that interested right now. Just wait about a week, and see if she calls. I wouldn't try and call her again though. There's nothing much else you can do.
 

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Oh yea i left out one thing she had a boyfriend but she said they were about to break up.I just got through talking to her and she was like i thought u knew we were just friends from jump and all this other ish. So yall were right i should of just left it alone.
 
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