"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
What did I do wrong?
- Thread starter Cerwin Vega
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
TheSlasher
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Overapplied C+F
Cerwin Vega
Master Don Juan
On retrospect, yeah...that's why you should always reply after thinking it thoroughly. It seemed like a perfect response after the "I'll let you know" which was HIGHLY flaky, I had to set my frame so I wrote her that...
TheSlasher
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If I was in your place, I would've not even replied at all. Or maybe say, "Ok." But more on going NC or something.
Mr Wright
Master Don Juan
Yeah, you still have to be socially intelligent. You basically just threw a load of crap at her and hoped it stuck, which it didn't. When it comes to making plans for a date, you don't need to do all that because she's pretty much agreed to go out with you and as you can see, stuff like that can shoot you in the foot. I have tons of female friends and I know they'd find a guy who said that pretty weird. You can still be interesting without coming across as too gamey. For the record being socially inept is not good for getting laid.TheSlasher said:
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.