What could've I done?

[Life-Trainee]

I had an interesting opportunity at a party half a year ago. I'm thinking to this day what I could've done differently to hook up with this girl. I constantly talked to her at the party and she's one of "whatever" down to earth quiet girls. I had trouble judging her interest level though. I acted C+F and she seemed to enjoy that. I wanted to show my interest in her romantically but I did want not to seem desperate. So I think I downplayed my interest and put myself in the friends zone. She was sleeping over as was I at the party place. We slept on adjacent couches, I knew I shoulda done something to show my interest but to this day I'm not sure how I would have done that.

I'm open to suggestions, and yes i have read the bible. I'm still unsure how to handle these party situations. I know I should've made out with her at least.

 

[silverwex]

You couldve tried it on!

Come on man its a party!

Ask her to dance, get talking to her close up (by edging into her ever so slowly while maintaining eye contact!) etc.

Its actually really unusual with me. When im talking to a girl in a club/pub/whatever i automatically move in slowly when i KNOW she has an interest in me, then before i know it im kissing her! This has worked, id say, 95% of the time for me. I gues im just good at reading signals of interest!

Back to your 'prob' - you have only yourself to blame mate, if youve read the bible and understood it then you would have tried it on.

Next time this happens - do it!

 

[b's nuts]

homie, did you make a move on her? if you didn't make a move on her, then i would say thats where you messed up for sure. You could have judged her interest level by seeing how she reacted to kino, whether she recirprocated your touch or bacame akward or uncomfertable.

Definately should have made a move, make the ho say no.

 

[b's nuts]

homie, did you make a move on her? if you didn't make a move on her, then i would say thats where you messed up for sure. You could have judged her interest level by seeing how she reacted to kino, whether she recirprocated your touch or bacame akward or uncomfertable.

Definately should have made a move, make the ho say no.

Oh yeah, that was half a year ago, go hit on some new girls.

 

[TurboLover]

What are you doing thinking about what happend so long ago. A situation like that is not likey to come again. That is why you have to live in the present and do what you would do if you could do it all over again NOW.

Unless you know something. Huh? You holdin out. Don't be stingy with the time machine man.

 

[Life-Trainee]

Um, this party is not a regular party. More of a social get-together thing. Close friends and aquaintances. Can you define "making a move"? I dont know how to go from friendly talking to kissing and whatnot. From what you're suggesting kino right? In that sense I did not make any move then.

 

[Life-Trainee]

Originally posted by TurboLover
What are you doing thinking about what happend so long ago. A situation like that is not likey to come again. That is why you have to live in the present and do what you would do if you could do it all over again NOW.

Unless you know something. Huh? You holdin out. Don't be stingy with the time machine man.

I'm pretty sure I'll be in a situation like that again. I will be at a party and I won't know how to make the home-run.