"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Today i was with my girlfriend going home on the train. And she said "i have to tell u sumtin"

"my friend came up to me and said, Can i get a hug''..''i hugged him and afterwards i felt bad''..''i only want you to hug me''

why would she feel bad after a hug. Could this mean she liked the kid and felt something for him during the hug? Was she guilty of something?

Why would she feel bad?

or could it just be an innocent feeling?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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You've taken it a bit out of context, but I'll shoot a few hypotheticals out there:

1. She genuinely feels guilty about hugging another guy. She doesn't think it's okay and just wants your forgiveness.
2. It's bothering her and she just needs a hug and some reassurance
3. She's just looking for a hug.
4. She's testing you to see how you react to this kind of thing. Seeing if you would find it okay to hug OTHER GIRLS (gasp!).
4a. You've hugged other girls and this is her way of telling you she's not okay with it.
5. SUPER PARANOID WORST CASE SCENARIO: She cheated on you and doesn't know how to come out with it. I seriously doubt it though...just doesn't add up to me.

In any case, give her a hug and make her feel better. Ask if the guy she hugged was hot. Let her know that stuff she communicates to you in such a deliberate way actually makes a difference to you.
 

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LOL... she heard her inner ho cry out for some new **** when he hugged her and she knows that is what she wants and she feels bad that she is about to cheat on you and or leave you...
 

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No, he's probably just messing with you, and you're showing your insecurity. Don't let what she said phase you. If it bothers you, she'll probably see it and know that she can control and manipulate your emotions. Just shrug it off and only worry about the big things.

If she does mess around on you, all you got to do is dump her. Don't try to be the man she wants you to be. Be the man you want to be, and if she doesn't like it, well whoopty freakin' do. You should want a girl who likes you for you, and not a girl who likes that you've change for her.

Don't sweat the small stuff!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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LMAO bro you have some deep insecurity issues if your OVERanalyzing a freaking hug. Come on now dude it's a HUG
 

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Alphamale1821 said:
LMAO bro you have some deep insecurity issues if your OVERanalyzing a freaking hug. Come on now dude it's a HUG
i wasnt overanalyxing a hug. I thought she still hugged other dudes.

i was just wondering why she teold me she felt bad after she hugged him..she said some guy saw awww and that she only wanted to be held in my arms

if it was a normal hugh i wouldnt care, but te fact that she felt guilty and sad mad me worry
 

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She felt guilty about hugging someone? Are you f*cking kidding me? One guess I have is that "hugging" was code for something else that she did, but doesn't wanna tell you... just a thought.
 

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illmatic1005 said:
i wasnt overanalyxing a hug. I thought she still hugged other dudes.

i was just wondering why she teold me she felt bad after she hugged him..she said some guy saw awww and that she only wanted to be held in my arms

if it was a normal hugh i wouldnt care, but te fact that she felt guilty and sad mad me worry
I told you the truth dude.. take it or leave it but she is giving you a loud clear warning sign that trouble is coming in your relationship..
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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DonGorgon said:
I told you the truth dude.. take it or leave it but she is giving you a loud clear warning sign that trouble is coming in your relationship..

whyyyyyyy
 

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illmatic1005 said:
whyyyyyyy
Why? cause she is a young pretty female human being offered D!CK every day by men who she like and men she doe not like... after a certain amount of time she will be inclined to f one of these dudes its just the natural order of things... Nothing you do can stop this you can delay it of make her lie and hide it but it will happen , just be glad you got a warning cause most men dont ..
 

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this is why I dont bother askin for advice on this site...cuz most guys who are not gettin ***** is gonna make an attempt to make u do the same for some god knows reason...how the fk will a hug result in her cheatin??? prob just her feelin bad that she is huggin another guy simple as that....if anythin keep tabs on the guys she hugs and see how close they become but dont be paranoid or ur gonna get stupid advice all the time
 

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Unprez said:
this is why I dont bother askin for advice on this site...cuz most guys who are not gettin ***** is gonna make an attempt to make u do the same for some god knows reason...how the fk will a hug result in her cheatin??? prob just her feelin bad that she is huggin another guy simple as that....if anythin keep tabs on the guys she hugs and see how close they become but dont be paranoid or ur gonna get stupid advice all the time
i dont think you understand the power of a womans inner ho....LOL
 

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Talk to her. Not the douche bags on here saying she's going to cheat on you.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Unprez said:
this is why I dont bother askin for advice on this site...cuz most guys who are not gettin ***** is gonna make an attempt to make u do the same for some god knows reason...how the fk will a hug result in her cheatin??? prob just her feelin bad that she is huggin another guy simple as that....if anythin keep tabs on the guys she hugs and see how close they become but dont be paranoid or ur gonna get stupid advice all the time
Spoken like a true AFC.

So are you banging 2-7 different chicks a week with your elite DJ Skills? You dating a woman that compliments your abilities and mindset as a fully realized man that loves his life? Are you happy and fulfilled with where you are in your span of years you have roamed this Earth?

You crap all over good advice alerting the fact that many people if they had a chick like her tell them this then they would see this as a RED FLAG; myself included, then tell the OP to:

Unprez said:
if anythin keep tabs on the guys she hugs and see how close they become but dont be paranoid or ur gonna get stupid advice all the time
That is a JEALOUS person's mindset if he did something like that. If you are dating someone you should be able to trust them to be alone with someone of either sex and know they wont screw around on you. Your advice does nothing but make him MORE paranoid by having to keep tabs on her presuming she might be cheating and instead of enjoying the relationship or moving on with his life, if he took your advice he would be digging his own grave which would be his own fault.

DonGorgon said:
i dont think you understand the power of a womans inner ho....LOL
Its sad really but you are speaking the truth. Each one of your posts in this thread are nothing but stating a warning flag has been raised and the OP can accept it and deal with it in his own way or not and hope for the best. The ones that know nothing about behaviors try to shoot down good advice because they refuse to realize the truth because it goes against what they have been taught and come to accept over time.

I love how their only argument to "disprove" logic is:

Unprez said:
cuz most guys who are not gettin ***** is gonna make an attempt to make u do the same for some god knows reason...how the fk will a hug result in her cheatin??? prob just her feelin bad that she is huggin another guy simple as that...
Pot calling the kettle black there buddy?

What people need to realize is 80-90% of woman make no sense to the mindset of men and little off handed comments like the one the OP posted shows intent even if she has acted upon those thoughts yet. Note I said 80-90% not 100% because some women aren't nuts 100% of the time.
 

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illmatic1005 said:
Today i was with my girlfriend going home on the train. And she said "i have to tell u sumtin"

"my friend came up to me and said, Can i get a hug''..''i hugged him and afterwards i felt bad''..''i only want you to hug me''

why would she feel bad after a hug. Could this mean she liked the kid and felt something for him during the hug? Was she guilty of something?

Why would she feel bad?

or could it just be an innocent feeling?

she wants to F him and the hug mad her feel guilty cause she was turned on.. she is loosing interest in you and is very tempted by other men now.. she was testing yiou for insecurity so she could validate her preparations tok cheat or dump you..lol

what you need to do?

spend less time with her be less available act like you care less.. dont treat her as nice.. but at the same time you need to F her until she begs you to stop. you are not hooking her sexually .. you need to make her orgasm hard and long.. then dont call her for 2 days..
 

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I wouldn't think twice about it unless you see any red flags popping up soon.
 
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