That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Be in charge of the interaction, basically.I hear the term frame and Alpha male tossed around a lot. What are some keys to having and keeping an alpha frame when dealing with women?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
That is a very hard question. Mainly because it is more of an ideal and mindset than anything slightly tangible.I hear the term frame and Alpha male tossed around a lot. What are some keys to having and keeping an alpha frame when dealing with women?
basically an alpha male is not like Forrest GumpI hear the term frame and Alpha male tossed around a lot. What are some keys to having and keeping an alpha frame when dealing with women?
I have to disagree because I think you are describing more of a Sigma male than alpha male. An alpha male just like Mufasa from Lion King has to answer, defend, and represent people so he's not his own man and can't be alone. Alpha males are elected and chosen by other people so you can't just outright say you are alpha male.It's not just one thing. It's a combination of:
IDGAF (with women and the relationship dynamic in 2021). Next batter up mentality.
Leadership
Your own man: you answer to NO ONE
Dignity / Self-Respect
Integrity
Comfortable being alone
Abundance Mindset in all facets of life, not just women; money, job, relationships
Continual Self-Improvement: health, money, goals, relationships
Right on, brother. Keep fighting the good fight.This gave me a boost today on what was kind of a gloomy day. I check all the boxes...feeling better!
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
It's a mindset, not a vocation. Many/most Alphas are loners. Every axiom has truth to it. Like, "It's lonely at the top." Leaders are respected and revered, but may not be well-liked like the docile, over-pleasing, nice guy beta.I have to disagree because I think you are describing more of a Sigma male than alpha male. An alpha male just like Mufasa from Lion King has to answer, defend, and represent people so he's not his own man and can't be alone. Alpha males are elected and chosen by other people so you can't just outright say you are alpha male.
That's a sigma male lmaoIt's a mindset, not a vocation. Many/most Alphas are loners. Every axiom has truth to it. Like, "It's lonely at the top." Leaders are respected and revered, but may not be well-liked like the docile, over-pleasing, nice guy beta.
Just my thoughts. It's ok, to disagree.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You can't say that you're alpha, that is for sure.I have to disagree because I think you are describing more of a Sigma male than alpha male. An alpha male just like Mufasa from Lion King has to answer, defend, and represent people so he's not his own man and can't be alone. Alpha males are elected and chosen by other people so you can't just outright say you are alpha male.
That is a sociopath thoughgets his way through understanding how people work.
It's not as simple as that. Sociopaths lack empathy or feelings and will screw people over without a second thought if they think that it will benefit them.That is a sociopath though
Wow, this quote is sick!"A tiger and lion may be more powerful. But the wolf doesn't perform in a circus"
Betas elect the alpha males, alpha males rule the betasYou can't say that you're alpha, that is for sure.
Alpha males are not elected or chosen. Useless weaklings are elected to office all the time by the beta NPCs of the world.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.