"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Hey guys!! Johnny here!

We all know that SoSuave focuses on helping men improve their dating lives, understand women, and develop practical skills they can apply in real life to build a richer, more fulfilling life surrounded by women.

But when it comes to LTRs and marriage, what communities, forums, or group of people would the members of SoSuave recommend for learning more about those topics and to get in touch with other men?

I'd love to hear about
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Hey guys!! Johnny here!

We all know that SoSuave focuses on helping men improve their dating lives, understand women, and develop practical skills they can apply in real life to build a richer, more fulfilling life surrounded by women.

But when it comes to LTRs and marriage, what communities, forums, or group of people would the members of SoSuave recommend for learning more about those topics and to get in touch with other men?

I'd love to hear about
You need a forum for that?
 

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R/ relationships

The best place to learn how to be a good little b1tch and prolong your dead bedroom


Nah seriously, regardless of what kinda relationship you have with a woman, the basics will always remain undefeated. You've wrote countless threads about observations from your own life, yiur sister parents friends ect and now you wanna fall back to square one and restart?

Most men are inherently bluepilled and will volunteer to be in a bad relationship...the type that will eventually die, but can indeed be prolonged for some time. Type of relationship that makes you " have sexdates on each 3rd Sunday of the month".

so yeah, r/ relationships might be what you're looking for...
 

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the good and the bad news. your in the right spot here already.

the issue is that the details are opaque..

think of it like a stack where upper layers are dependent on lower layers. what your learning here is layer 1 and maybe 2... if you have ever worked on optimization of 'dynamic' things the place to do it is layer 1 and 2 if you can. if you fix it at layer 10, its going to really expensive in one way or another.

just go for the root of the issue and layer 3-10 become less important.

if layer 10 is getting your attention then look closer at 1 and 2.

one exception is that nothing learned here will help if you have a chemical issue.
 

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Communities? Good luck finding that in the West where diky feminist and career women are around. You need to travel my friend, get your butt to South America or South East Asia and check out some traditionally minded women.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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@jhonny9546 Solid women for LTRs can be found in almost every community of humans on this planet. Idea for increasing one's chances...

Take an exhaustive, unsentimental look at yourself, then inquire: "Am I currently the sort of person who enriches and invigorates the lives of others? Would I want the person I am now in my orbit, if I were someone else?"
 

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i recently heard of a community that talks more about relationships for men, it's really dope, it also talks about quitting porn, being married, or an LTR, practicing sexual transmutation and more .
 

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i recently heard of a community that talks more about relationships for men, it's really dope, it also talks about quitting porn, being married, or an LTR, practicing sexual transmutation and more .
Send me that in DM so we don't spam, thanks!

ake an exhaustive, unsentimental look at yourself, then inquire: "Am I currently the sort of person who enriches and invigorates the lives of others? Would I want the person I am now in my orbit, if I were someone else?"
Yes this is actually solid advice, also get your help from someone you trust
will help if you have a chemical issue.
What do you mean by that? using drugs/alchohol?
 

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What do you mean by that? using drugs/alchohol?
can be. the body is a machine. the mind is a machine. biology and chemistry. it is far more complicated than i can understand. anything that affects the machine. think about an engine (old style). needs to be tunned and taken care of if you want performance and reliability. no oil, no running after a short time.

there are thousands or millions of variables in the human. your thoughts, emotions, actions, everything is controled by the machine. you can get a different behaviour by changing it.

lots of gym rats are doing because it feels good, not just for the visual.. it causes many chemicals to be adjusted in the body.

trt is an old topic... its more than just adding test.

alchahol, drugs (of any kind), coffee (its a drug...). you get the idea. used to be smoking was a big one...

not telling you what to adjust, just know that there are lots of adjustments available and they matter. even sleep, has a massive effect.

i am one of the people you shared photo with... you look good enough. being ugly is not your issue. and you seem to have more knowledge than most about the topics. i mean you can explain the issues in detail. the doing is the hard part... usually that's chemical triggers.
 

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here are thousands or millions of variables in the human. your thoughts, emotions, actions, everything is controled by the machine. you can get a different behaviour by changing it.
I am not a scientist but I can confirm since I had some friends on pills, but also you can see that on how women libido change on birth control
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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