"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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dnscache

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Hey Guys... newbie here needing some advice.

Met this girl at a hookah bar a few days ago with her friends. Me and my friends chatted with them for probably an hour, then we all went out to eat. I am in the middle of some serious stuff with another girl (3 year relationship ended) and wasn't even thinking about getting someones number. So, we all part ways but not after I invited them to my friends party. They said they had other plans. Anyway... two days later the one I was eyeing adds me on the old Facebook. The next day I shoot her a message inviting her down to a thing they do each year in my city on Thanksgiving, and saying I didn't have any other way to contact her so I went with the facebook message. She sends me one back after the event is over apologizing, but gives me her number.

Now... I'm a bit confused on where to take this. Any advice from the pros?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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theunflushables

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Where's the confusion?

Sounds like she is interested (she added you and facebook after all), but couldn't make it to the Thanksgiving thing for whatever reason (which is to be expected on holidays).

Call her in a few days and invite her to go do something with you.
 

dnscache

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That's pretty much what I was saying... there's somethin I'm doing tonight, but wasn't sure if that's too early to see.

And call, no text?
 

theunflushables

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Definitely call. Everybody texts nowadays. Set yourself apart from the rest of the crowd. Its also more personal.
 
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