"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What causes so called Butterflys.....

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Hey guys I was kissing this girl today and have in the past as well, and she said to me ,she has millions of butterflys everytime, I go near her and kiss her or do more ? she also said that she has never had that with any guy before ,and I dont think shes lying seemed very genuine,just wondering what are these butterflys ? what causes them ? is she in love what do you think ? thanks guys
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Butterflies are from body's fight or flight response. You often get them in a negative way if you have "performance anxiety," in situations like meeting new people or public speaking. It's a strong physiological response involving adrenaline and your adrenal glands (located above your kidneys), and it usually means you're way into someone and are concerned about impressing them, i.e., they have signalled strong social value to you.

The emotions and the body's (and brain's) chemistry are very interrelated, and all three are related to your health. When you are first in love with a new person and begin to experience their touch, etc. you get overloaded with endorphines like Dopamine and Seretonin, and these things do tend to cement the bond with that new person, creating quasi-drug addict behavior in the two of you. There are lots of good articles on these things if you just google:

endorphines, dopamine, drenalin, fight or flight, relationships, brain chemistry, frontal cortex, etc.
 

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but surely this goes down after awhile being with that person ,its usually at the start that this happens is that right ? also what would you say if she asks you do you get them ? which I dont ,she may think Im not as much into her as she is with me ? any ideas there thanks again
 

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tell her you get them whe she does certan things (such as nibbel on your neck or touch you in cetan way....use your imagination).

That way at least you encurage her to make you feel good.

it's all a good thing.
 

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Anfz said:
Hey guys I was kissing this girl today and have in the past as well, and she said to me ,she has millions of butterflys everytime, I go near her and kiss her or do more ? she also said that she has never had that with any guy before ,and I dont think shes lying seemed very genuine,just wondering what are these butterflys ? what causes them ? is she in love what do you think ? thanks guys
Most likely it's a good thing.

Unless she ate larva for breakfast. Then it's not a good thing.

Assume it's a good thing, especially if she seems to enjoy the kiss.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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