Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
JackRobin said:All except for British and German. So I mean Scandinavian, French, Italian, Swiss, etc.
1. Are they harder to game than American women?
2. Do they only go for Black or White men?
heading to a travel there in a few months
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
thanks, what is your race/ethnicity?GotED? said:I am a Californian transplanted in Europe with the government and have lived in Germany for 1 year and now in UK for 2 year so far.
I have had British, German, and now a French girlfriend. Answers to your question(s):
1. Are they harder to game than American women?
I do not think so - I think if you are NON-WHITE, you have a huge advantage overseas here in Europe. Women here find NON-WHITE as exotic breed of men and will be much more open to you than the American women. To tell you the truth, Americans are deep seated in unconscious racial divide. What can you expect from a country that is rooted in slavery and racial strife history since the formation of the nation??
Since I have been in Europe (I am a NON-WHITE), my dating life has been almost reversed. I have continuous game with women and relationships, there is no shortage to caucasian women here in Europe.
The MAIN thing you need to improve upon is your appearance. Europeans are very fashion focused. My French girlfriend has a very negative image of American men and their lack of fashion sense (much of it so). Upgrade your wardrobe, style, cologne, and confidence - and you will have some leverage with European women. If you come across as the typical American man who lacks fashion sense, first image will be a major turn off and rejection.
The last advice is: there is NO common denominator to European women. Take one as their own - they have all been different for me, except for the fact that they are very much more open to experiment with other races.
2. Do they only go for Black or White men?
Nope, see my response above. Good luck.
With respect,
Exodus
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I don't think that was his point man...JackRobin said:oh god, not the whole lets make everyone love black women ideal
I swear you remind me of that speakeasy faggot from the roosh v forums who would have huge issues with brown and asian men hooking up with White women. Guy was black and only dated White women too.
Start your own thread, this is a travel thread, not an ebonics thread.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I love dark hair and dislike blonde......don't really get this western obsession with blonde hair and blue eyes.Down Low said:Many women dye their hair to a lighter color so they can look more European. Except for hiding grey, women dye their hair to black to put off all men. Many women straighten their hair, bleach their skin or use lightening cosmetics, and wear Western European styles of clothing to look more European. To be more exact, they're trying to look like the protoeuropean haplogroups I (see above link).
It's common practice on this site to rate women according to a loose HB scale. If natural blondes with blue eyes are more desired, that tells us to discount brown hair and brown eyes. Say, knock off half a point for each. (Green/hazel eyes are the same as blue for this purpose). (Well, you certainly can't add points for blondness. That would make for HB11s and 12s and up -- not to speak of calling some ugly middle-aged Mexican chick a HB7 just for turning herself into a platinum blonde.) Black hair and black eyes: discount more. Knock off points. What about dark skin? Subtract more points as it gets darker. Kinky hair, thick lips, low-bridged nose and wide nostrils, low and wide cheekbones, an underbite, or ghetto booty? Less desirable. Knock off points.
Hmmmm... There might be some truth here. When I lived up north, white people HATED the fact that I was attracting white women (and they weren't attracting ****). I wasn't respected at all, by much of anybody, and was always singled out and bullied. But there was always an underlying racial tone behind it. It's almost like, if you're not white - in an area that's predominantly so - you are viewed as inferior, unattractive, and unworthy. And they were harping on about it. Almost every guy said I was ugly, and made several racial comments. They did the same with black people - even when there were none around.JackRobin said:oh god, not the whole lets make everyone love black women ideal
I swear you remind me of that speakeasy faggot from the roosh v forums who would have huge issues with brown and asian men hooking up with White women. Guy was black and only dated White women too.
Start your own thread, this is a travel thread, not an ebonics thread.
I too have noticed that blonde females tend to be the first to get noticed. Out of the hundreds of thousands of blondes that I've seen in my entire life I only found about a handful to be of rare, exceptional and unparalleled beauty. Contrary to what society portrays those few valkyries are of course the exception and NOT the rule. Personally I think blondes are vastly overrated, a very size able number of them tend to have masculine jawlines and a sort of rugged look which I don't find attractive at all. Less then 25% of them are DECENT looking (considered hb 8's or 9's when dolled up) and these are the girls so many guys seem to be breaking their necks over.Down Low said:Women understand that blondes with blue eyes get noticed first. "Scandinavian...Swiss" as Jack Robin put it, are at the top of the pecking order. Only in a room full of blondes does the dark-haired girl stand out. That's unlikely due to the relative scarcity of yellow hair compared to brown in most of the world. Even in Sweden, less than half are blondes.
I do notice how rare the really hot ones are. You find it easier to chat/flirt with them but I personally found it to be the complete reversal. They know they are in demand since EVERYBODY is trying to pick them up therefore they can afford to be as openly ruthless as they want and suffer no penalties because they don't know any better. They live in a different world from us my friend.Crazystarf said:Once in a blue moon you see a black girl that averages around on the 8-9 scale around in college; the positive thing about this is that black girls seem to be way easier to chat with/flirt compared to white (and especially Asian) girls. Take note that this is extremely rare; there's only about 1:1000 ratio where a black girl is a 9.
Did anyone else here notice this or is it just me?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.