"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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What Can I DO with My Look? (Pic)

TIC

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I've got an approach journal some of you may have seen. here's me.
ignore the frown.

http://i41.photobucket.com/albums/e279/Prevlnt/UI/12042010263.jpg

If anyone here can, I'd like advice on what hairstyle I should get. I've never done anything but a buzzcut, but now I'm going to try something new. Should I do a mohawk, fohawk, let it get super long, or something else? Or, is it good the way it is?

Any tips on my look would help
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Jitterbug

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If you're lazy & can't be arsed experimenting, go to a high-end hair studio for men and pay them the bucks to design you a style. It costs about $180 where I live.
 

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I agree. Don't get an obnoxious douche bag haircut just to attract attention to yourself. Instead, go to a quality stylist to cut your hair. I'd rather get a good haircut from a flaming homo than get whacked in the head with clippers by a bored fat b!tch at Supercuts. My own stylist of the past 7 years happens to be a very attractive woman, but I have her cut my hair because she is good at what she does. That's what is important.
 

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My stylist is manly and very vain. He used to be a bodybuilder, now he's got a wife and kid and his own place. Nice guy does a great job without being a flaming homo.

Your haircut is boring. Do something, and stop looking like you're going to rape someone. Chill out and smile for the picture a little bit.
 

TIC

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Alle_Gory said:
Do something, and stop looking like you're going to rape someone. Chill out and smile for the picture a little bit.
I said ignore the frown
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Other than encourage you to get that v-shape torso, here's the deal.

Get a haircut where a part of your scalp is either faded or tapered. Whether you get a mohawk thing (careful not to overdo it) or a "hiphop-style" fade or a brad pitt do' lol, it's got to be maintained on a regular basis.

Let your facial grow a lil'...keep us updated!
 

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Don Israel said:
Let your facial grow a lil'...keep us updated!
You can try not shaving, but trimmming the beard super-short. Try stuff out man! Aim for something that makes you look more masculine, while at the same time still clean and not shabby.

Dunno if that works with your face, but you must experiment! Have a different style every month!
 

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The complete shaved head might work for you.
 

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I am doing this stuff with my face, The use of Aloe, not the green stuff in the bottle for sunburn, but the plant itself. you can buy aloe leaves a large number of grocery stores and Just crack open and ooze Gooyer things, Rubbed on the face and it feels amazing and makes your face so soft crazy after leaving for a while.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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TIC

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I've decided to take Don Israel's advice. I will let all my hair grow and see what I can do with it from there

I'll post an updated pic when it happens.

I have a round chubby face, which makes me look fat even though I am 5'11 155 pounds. If I took a pic of just my face straightfoward in the light with my cell phone cam, you'd all swear I was a fat mexican. Yet, my stomach is flat and I nearly have abs...my genetics blow big time.

I can already tell that the light beard im growing is giving my face a more elongated look, which is good. Can't believe I didn't try this before...definitely going to let everything grow out
 
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