"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What Can I DO with My Look? (Pic)

TIC

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I've got an approach journal some of you may have seen. here's me.
ignore the frown.

http://i41.photobucket.com/albums/e279/Prevlnt/UI/12042010263.jpg

If anyone here can, I'd like advice on what hairstyle I should get. I've never done anything but a buzzcut, but now I'm going to try something new. Should I do a mohawk, fohawk, let it get super long, or something else? Or, is it good the way it is?

Any tips on my look would help
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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If you're lazy & can't be arsed experimenting, go to a high-end hair studio for men and pay them the bucks to design you a style. It costs about $180 where I live.
 

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I agree. Don't get an obnoxious douche bag haircut just to attract attention to yourself. Instead, go to a quality stylist to cut your hair. I'd rather get a good haircut from a flaming homo than get whacked in the head with clippers by a bored fat b!tch at Supercuts. My own stylist of the past 7 years happens to be a very attractive woman, but I have her cut my hair because she is good at what she does. That's what is important.
 

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My stylist is manly and very vain. He used to be a bodybuilder, now he's got a wife and kid and his own place. Nice guy does a great job without being a flaming homo.

Your haircut is boring. Do something, and stop looking like you're going to rape someone. Chill out and smile for the picture a little bit.
 

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Alle_Gory said:
Do something, and stop looking like you're going to rape someone. Chill out and smile for the picture a little bit.
I said ignore the frown
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Other than encourage you to get that v-shape torso, here's the deal.

Get a haircut where a part of your scalp is either faded or tapered. Whether you get a mohawk thing (careful not to overdo it) or a "hiphop-style" fade or a brad pitt do' lol, it's got to be maintained on a regular basis.

Let your facial grow a lil'...keep us updated!
 

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Don Israel said:
Let your facial grow a lil'...keep us updated!
You can try not shaving, but trimmming the beard super-short. Try stuff out man! Aim for something that makes you look more masculine, while at the same time still clean and not shabby.

Dunno if that works with your face, but you must experiment! Have a different style every month!
 

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The complete shaved head might work for you.
 

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I am doing this stuff with my face, The use of Aloe, not the green stuff in the bottle for sunburn, but the plant itself. you can buy aloe leaves a large number of grocery stores and Just crack open and ooze Gooyer things, Rubbed on the face and it feels amazing and makes your face so soft crazy after leaving for a while.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I've decided to take Don Israel's advice. I will let all my hair grow and see what I can do with it from there

I'll post an updated pic when it happens.

I have a round chubby face, which makes me look fat even though I am 5'11 155 pounds. If I took a pic of just my face straightfoward in the light with my cell phone cam, you'd all swear I was a fat mexican. Yet, my stomach is flat and I nearly have abs...my genetics blow big time.

I can already tell that the light beard im growing is giving my face a more elongated look, which is good. Can't believe I didn't try this before...definitely going to let everything grow out
 
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