"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What can a woman OFFER besides sex?

Drum&Bass

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Babnik don't be a fool, women are people / men are people..theres only so much people can offer other people when it comes to NON-SEXUAL full-fillment..what ever a man can offer a man a woman can offer a man, those are your only non-sexual options.

Of course Women can ONLY OFFER SEX TO MAN (only thing different a woman can offer to man that another man can't), but you need to find a woman who doesn't hold you to some fantasy ideal and can accept you for your goals, honesty, personality, ambition etc..

None of us wants to have sex with a woman who we can't share our weakness with and vice versa..

your upset right now and i'm getting that through your posts but stay logical and put things in perspective..if your really getting frustrated, do some push-ups.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Babnik

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sparky0000 said:
it is a great thing. i come from a long line of males who never allowed themselves to do those things. i would prefer a 5'9 girl with size 24' waist and big blue eyes to do those things for me. i know where to find them as well :rock: these days i think you pretty much need to move to the former soviet union to find girls who actually want to take care of you. in ukraine it is part of the culture for a man to be served by his wife or girlfriend. it is an insult to most girls if you try to help her do things. it has nothing to do with her wanting your money. just part of the culture.

the army is for followers. i am not a follower. the army is simply an extension of high school football and fraternity life. the toughest thing in life is to be your own man. the army teaches you to be somebody else's man.

support is not given by men. if you need support as a man then you are a puss. i f*** up a lot. probably more than most of you. however, i love myself. most of you hate yourselves. i don't need anyone to tell me that i am special. my key is that i learned not to give a damn if i screw up or make a fool of myself. it happens. as long as i am doing something that others are not doing i am content with myself.

You need to learn from screw ups...make a notice at least.


I'm from the Ukraine...
 

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Babnik said:
Well, OK...but like thats what any other man can offer. I am saying that woman as a being, as something different from man can ONLY offer sex.
By asking what women, as something different from man can offer other than sex, you imply that all that men have to offer is useless, if all that women can offer is sex!

Why does it have to be something men can't do? If you have intelligent men and women, and presumably are able to talk your politics with both, and have sex with only the one of them, which are more useful?

Let's reverse the question, what can men do for you, that women can't?

But if men can offer good things, and women can offer them too + sex + childbirth, what's the problem dude? It ads up to women being very good for you.

And if you can't talk to women or have fun with them, you've got some serious issues..
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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