"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What can a woman OFFER besides sex?

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1. I haven't had a single good intelligent conversation with a woman about a serious topic. Their thinking is more like thinking based on feelings than anything else.
2. You CANNOT try to get confidence, support, or any kind of energy from a woman. If you do - they will think you are weak. You have to confident one, the leading one, the one who gives support. If I come home tired and feeling down and will want to cuddle up to a woman to just have someone there for me - they would HATE that!!!
3. Men understand men better. Men barely understand women.


If you are a DJ, then a woman = vagina. In fact woman = disposable vaginal content.


This is NOT some hating thing! I respect and love all women in a sexual way, but its just there nothing else they can offer.



P.S. I cook, clean, and do other traditional womanly things better than any woman I have seen...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Babnik said:
If you are a DJ, then a woman = vagina. In fact woman = disposable vaginal content.
That's not true. That's the shallow perspective of players and jerks. DJs are neither players nor jerks.
 

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Demon said:
That's not true. That's the shallow perspective of players and jerks. DJs are neither players nor jerks.
Well, read what I said....if you need ANYTHING besides sex from a woman - she will perceive you a weak!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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It seems like a lot of women cant discuss anything about politics, economy...history..but, they know what type of purse Paris Hilton just bought & who Kid Rock is bangin..they are generally clueless on current world events....
 

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support, love, affection, cooking, cleaning, baking, ironing, etc.

u are lucky to get one of the above from a typical american girl. hence the reason you already do female work. no man should have to clean, bake, cook, iron, etc. let your mother do it until you get married.
 

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sparky0000 said:
support, love, affection, cooking, cleaning, baking, ironing, etc.

u are lucky to get one of the above from a typical american girl. hence the reason you already do female work. no man should have to clean, bake, cook, iron, etc. let your mother do it until you get married.
Thats an awful thing, man. You need to KNOW how to do those things, but primarily my mom does those kind of things.

It also has NOTHING to do with being a man. Hell, they teach you this kind of discipline in the ARMY!!!

But support is not given by women. Its given by men to women. Which leaves love and thus sex as the only use for them.

All you who called me stupid - back up your statement!
 

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Babnik said:
1. I haven't had a single good intelligent conversation with a woman about a serious topic. Their thinking is more like thinking based on feelings than anything else.
2. You CANNOT try to get confidence, support, or any kind of energy from a woman. If you do - they will think you are weak. You have to confident one, the leading one, the one who gives support. If I come home tired and feeling down and will want to cuddle up to a woman to just have someone there for me - they would HATE that!!!
3. Men understand men better. Men barely understand women.


If you are a DJ, then a woman = vagina. In fact woman = disposable vaginal content.


This is NOT some hating thing! I respect and love all women in a sexual way, but its just there nothing else they can offer.



P.S. I cook, clean, and do other traditional womanly things better than any woman I have seen...
Stop reposting bullshvt that's been around the DJ boards for the last four years, and still isn't anymore true than it was back then.
 

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Babnik said:
I respect and love all women in a sexual way, but its just there nothing else they can offer.

If thats what you truely believe then you are destined to a VERY, VERY lonely life.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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If thats what you truely believe then you are destined to a VERY, VERY lonely life.
No, I have friends. And thats another thing...you can't be just friends with girls you like. They don't like FRIEND behavior. They like F*CK ME behavior and any friend behavior is considered vaginal to them. Listen to yourself.
Girls do not want to bee seeing you more than 2-3 times a week and they prefer to have friends who make them feel NOT lonlely and YOU are there for sex.
 

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Well we know you're not getting STD's bro, which is actually a good thing.
 

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Many of my female friends can hold a great conversation, hell some of 'em are actually quite funny. Don't take such a narrow view on the world and women in general.

Maybe my sample is distorted due to being an uni, but even so, I know that there are some great ladies out there, who are more than capable of having an intelligent conversation on a variety of subjects -- from politics to sport. Women may often like to talk about different things, but that doesn't make them stupid by any means.

You my friend have bought way too far into the long-exaggerated mantras of the pickup artists' ideal and you're feeling frustrated with women, which is understandable. I think you've been unlucky, and I feel for you, however your attitude is just way off the mark.

I guess what I'm saying is this. Don't generalise too much.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Babnik said:
No, I have friends. And thats another thing...you can't be just friends with girls you like. They don't like FRIEND behavior. They like F*CK ME behavior and any friend behavior is considered vaginal to them. Listen to yourself.
Girls do not want to bee seeing you more than 2-3 times a week and they prefer to have friends who make them feel NOT lonlely and YOU are there for sex.
No, I'm afraid I agree with monkey. This thread is moronic man, just give it up.
 

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many believe, a womans feminine , I guess , passivity beauty and feminity balances out the aggressive , dominant aspects of us Males . They are the "anti-man" in the more physcology aspects of speaking.
 

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Come on man... be real about this... there are lots of things that chicks can offer

You're misunderstanding some of the DJ concepts really... it's not about being a loner, it's about being independent and not NEEDING a chick... you can enjoy yourself without a chick, but being with a cool chick is great too and not only because of the pvssy...
 

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Babnik said:
1. I haven't had a single good intelligent conversation with a woman about a serious topic. Their thinking is more like thinking based on feelings than anything else.
2. You CANNOT try to get confidence, support, or any kind of energy from a woman. If you do - they will think you are weak. You have to confident one, the leading one, the one who gives support. If I come home tired and feeling down and will want to cuddle up to a woman to just have someone there for me - they would HATE that!!!
3. Men understand men better. Men barely understand women.
You need to meet more women.

I've had plenty of intelligent conversations with women, and at times I've lost track of time and spent 7 or more hours chatting over coffees or drinks. Not to say all women are capable of that, but men like that have been harder to find in my experience.



If you are a DJ, then a woman = vagina. In fact woman = disposable vaginal content.
Very wrong. A DJ is charismatic and the foundation of charisma is being able to see and bring out the best in people, encourage them and make them feel good about being with you.

A DJ is sociable, enjoys company and appreciates people, and in turn he attracts people to him like a magnet. A big part of being a DJ is having a positive and amiable attitude. A person who is only out for what he/she can get are just users and not very likeable people. Unfortunately the seduction community tries to brainwash guys into thinking it's men vs. women, you must be selfish and step on other people to be successful, do unto others before they do unto you etc etc That's not a healthy attitude to have at all.

So many guys who come to the seduction community to improve their social skills and interaction with women end up being told not to waste their time, and how women aren't worth the effort etc. All they learn is how to transform their failures and frustrations into anger and blame.

Don't fall into that trap. A lot of women are cool and can be great to talk to. It's a great feeling waking upto a woman you have feelings for, going on holidays together, sharing experiences, play fighting and joking around etc. There are a lot of fun experiences you can have with women aside from sex.

It's no wonder there are so many angry and bitter guys with bad attitudes.
 

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If this girl or girls arent what you want you can always leave.

I dont know how you feel about relationships and that kind of stuff. It does seem that you outta look for someone that can relate to you. Its like your sick of just chicks you cant hold somewhat of a bond with.

I know Id like to meet someone like that...but it doesnt have to be soon. I dont need to meet these girls right now. Girls like that dont always make it to you right away. Luck...may have some play into it. Sometimes it doesnt matter how many girls you meet. Its where I am with my life.

If you dont wanna wait for that kind of girl you dont have to either. Going through girls is kind of the process of finding someone for a relationship. Bangin chicks may be the way to go too until you find a chick that you can respect. Youre gonna have to figure out what you want to do next.

Babnik said:
1. I haven't had a single good intelligent conversation with a woman about a serious topic. Their thinking is more like thinking based on feelings than anything else.
2. You CANNOT try to get confidence, support, or any kind of energy from a woman. If you do - they will think you are weak. You have to confident one, the leading one, the one who gives support. If I come home tired and feeling down and will want to cuddle up to a woman to just have someone there for me - they would HATE that!!!
3. Men understand men better. Men barely understand women.


If you are a DJ, then a woman = vagina. In fact woman = disposable vaginal content.


This is NOT some hating thing! I respect and love all women in a sexual way, but its just there nothing else they can offer.



P.S. I cook, clean, and do other traditional womanly things better than any woman I have seen...
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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