What are your thoughts on LDR (another country)?

[bario]

Hi all,

New member here!

Was told about this girl through a family member 2 months ago and the only way of communication is through Facebook, which I only keep it to once a week. We seem to have much in common. Both are at same age, late twenties. The goal is a a serious LTR!

Just wanted to know what are your thoughts and/or tips to deal with long distance relationships, both living in different countries?

 

[sosousage]

Huge no. Im saying this politely before others will come here to call you beta virgin who travels 2 countries just to fuk

 

[Billtx49]

They do not work out Ever. The only Remote chance one would work is if you were within an instate driving distance to her.
With her living in another country, it's only mutual emotional masturbation at best.

 

[Julian]

Ughhh. Gotta be a troll. Has to be a troll..please be a troll.


Why dont we just jump right into arranged marriage while your at it here

 

[Thorninmyside]

Nope. I have a couple of international plates that I catch up with when I travel but relationships status is impractical and custom built for disappointment and paranoia.

I know what it's like to want to go ahead and do something regardless of what people say, but from experience I know that you are going to do it tough.

 

[Asasione]

I'll tell you right now while in the middle of one it sucks and will be extremely difficult. Best thing I can advise is never consider it. I've been with my LTR for almost a decade then she moved to another country for work so it was really unexpected that it worked out that way. Starting a relationship as a LDR is retarded, there's too many women to even entertain the frustration and paranoia you'll experience.

 

[marmel75]

Same as any other LDR whether it's same country, different country, same state, different state, etc...

Complete waste of time and energy.

 

[LimaBean]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/is-an-ldr-ever-acceptable.241644/#post-2463738

Read what happened in mine. Everything seems great, but her interest level will plummet the longer she is away from you. You can't keep the game going forever. Keep her as a plate

 

[dude99]

Hi all,

New member here!

Was told about this girl through a family member 2 months ago and the only way of communication is through Facebook, which I only keep it to once a week. We seem to have much in common. Both are at same age, late twenties. The goal is a a serious LTR!

Just wanted to know what are your thoughts and/or tips to deal with long distance relationships, both living in different countries?

You have a facebook pen pal. Not a relationship.

You can't make dates with a pen pal
you can't gauge interests levels through facebook.
You can't have sechs with a pen pal.

The best part of this is the NC will be real simple.

 

[SmooveMooves]

It's retarded Bario.

 

[marmel75]

Thats a relative statement. Many people have these. Some work some do not. Just last year my girlfriend at the time, her father married a phillapino woman.
Seemed to work for them. Its only a waste of time from that view. To me theres no such thing as a waste of time on a higher level because im learning from all the experiences in my life.
So OP just listen to your gut(body) and the experience should guide you and you will get somthing from it.

Please. The women is having sex with other people, the guy is wasting time typically because they think it's a real relationshipand won't look for sex.

 

[marmel75]

Marmel typically is not absolute. I notice alot of guys on the community speak in absolute terms and if you have read enough from the gurus the only absolutes in this world are math and science for the most part.

"Typically" yes if the guy is acting foolishly he wont pursue others and if hes spending his time with others and gets buthurt that she is too hes got no joy and self love. Or not enough.

If a LDR progresses at whatever rate it has potential but if it goes stagnant?...well we know how that goes too. These are relative situations.
Lets say you meet a chic from france and sometime down the line you decide eh what the hell ive never been to france...why not AND i potentially may have some fun with this cool french girl. Win win if you like to travel.
However if the dude makes his mind and from and the trip all about the girl and all you.men know exactly what that feels like then he shouldnt go at all it will not go well. "Typically"
There are no absolute rules. Every good DJ will tell you if hes honest he has seen every rule broken or most. Except 2+2 will Always be 4.
So OP i say if your mature enough to handle a LDR emotionally while still living your purpose i say more power and have fun.
Who knows you could end up with her hot cousin or somthing. Control is somwhat of an allusion.

If you can't fvck them it's not a relationship. Except in your mind.

Jacking off to some chick 1000 miles away because she sends you nudes or a video while the dude down the street is pounding her senseless is an exercise in stupidity.

 

[dustmuffin]

Long distance never works. No need to go I to detail. Find a local woman.

 

[marmel75]

Disagree dude. I think your over exaggerating a very broad range of possibilities. Facts are facts and so are countless examples of the **** working out. What your saying is just 1 possibility.

No, I'm being quite honest. These "work out" due to guys being desperate. And if you think the woman is sitting around not havnig sex while she is "in a long distance relationship" you are simply clueless.

 

[marmel75]

Its only clueless when the guy isnt living his life and purpose. Feeling desperate about the girl having sex and being consumed by fear is exactly the fear people come here to shake off in the first place.
We call it beimg needy. I say again if LDR is progessing foward into non LDR then it has potential. If it is not then its already dead.
Its pretty simple.
And to tell OP to avoid LDR at all costs through fear of her filling physical needs or doing what she wants to do is just bad afvice IMO.

If you can't fvck her, it isn't a relationship. Period. Case Closed. Enough with this nonsense. Where is @ nismo-4 when you need him to close a case.

 

[pjbrown]

I live in a border city..Sarnia ontario Canada to Port huron michigan..My thoughts now on LDRs...Im 47 years old,..all you young guys..take my advice..been there and done it..NEVER works out..Unless that girl is an amazing piece of ass..im staying right in my city!.Cross border and long distance relationships never work out...Right now im currently "seeing" or in a "relationship" with a girl across the border..It works for now...amazing sex!...Period!