Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
falconslax89 said:
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Converse and Vans go with everything, you can't go wrong wit em. Plus I always get compliments on them.Myrrdin said:
I was digging your post, but then you say: I'm too busy to keep up on what's fashionable nowadays (a little embarrassing, yes I know). This isn't embarrassing at all. Just wear what you like, it will turn cool. If you like it so will other people. That's fashion.TheManOfSteel said:Title says it all. A night out on the town, what are your preferred kicks? My casual shoes have become my gym shoes so I need some new shoes for nights out, etc... I'm too busy to keep up on what's fashionable nowadays (a little embarrassing, yes I know). Are Superstar II's and Air Force 1's still in? Lend a brother a hand...?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Bingo, that's why everybody should at least put some thought into what shoes they're buying. I hear what you guys are saying about black dress shoes. I love them, and wear a pair to work everyday, but they're not as comfortable as some casual sneakers. I think I just need to go grab a decent pair of Adidas, Nikes, Vans (I checked a couple out today... not bad afterall - different from what was posted though), or Diesels. While I'm at it I'll grab a new pair of black dress shoes too.Falcon25 said:
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Like I said...the vans come in a ton of different styles, those were just the first i saw on google. I have had girl after girl compliment my vans as well as randomly point them out in stores. Don't care what anyone else says, I know from experience you cant go wrong with some laced up vans dressed up or down. I personally find the slip on to be less stylish but that's a matter of taste.TheManOfSteel said:
Yep so if I go to the mall looking at shoes to buy, and I get some HB's phone number and eventually bang her brains out, I'm obviously a homosexual because I was originally going to the mall to look for shoes...falconslax89 said:
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.