Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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What are your Goals?

steve_erkle

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Well guys, I just wrote out some goals for myself for the next year. I'm focusing on bodybuilding, guitar, and improving my social skills. Just wondering what everybody else's goals are.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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guywhoneedshelp

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I don't think improving social skills is really a goal of mine. However, I do strive to read more books, watch more movies, stay up to date with TV shows, so you have something to talk about when you are making small talk. I try to see as many movies as possible, because I hate being the one guy at the table who never heard of that movie everyone is talking about.

My goals are mainly financial. Earn more, save more, invest more.
 

Lexington

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My goals:
- To improve my confidence and game with the ladies:
Anxiety/confidence are my main issues, but I've made some serious progress in these areas. I need to improve my conversation and flirting skills.

-To build a significantly greater amount of muscle mass:
I go to the gym 4x a week and I already see some differences in about a month and half

-To be a more organized, disciplined, focused student:
This has been the most difficult area to work on. This is particularly hard for me because I have ADHD. Unfortunately, the progress has been small and hard to come in this area, but I'm going to keep working at it!

-To take my guitar playing to the next level:
I started when I was 14 (and I turned 24 a few days ago). Early on, my goal was to be able to play Metallica's best stuff (I used to be a huge fan of theirs). I can play most of it including the solos. But after I reached that goal, my guitar playing has really plateaued. My aim now is to take on some Satriani, which should be quite a bit more challenging.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dstructor

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- Get some cool belts in Capoeira
- Have energizing fun, with and without people, effortlessly
- Get in touch with who i am, my desires and choose who i want to be

You can say these are my life's goals, the capoeira not so much lol but i do love this game
 
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