"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What are your Goals?

steve_erkle

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Well guys, I just wrote out some goals for myself for the next year. I'm focusing on bodybuilding, guitar, and improving my social skills. Just wondering what everybody else's goals are.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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guywhoneedshelp

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I don't think improving social skills is really a goal of mine. However, I do strive to read more books, watch more movies, stay up to date with TV shows, so you have something to talk about when you are making small talk. I try to see as many movies as possible, because I hate being the one guy at the table who never heard of that movie everyone is talking about.

My goals are mainly financial. Earn more, save more, invest more.
 

Lexington

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My goals:
- To improve my confidence and game with the ladies:
Anxiety/confidence are my main issues, but I've made some serious progress in these areas. I need to improve my conversation and flirting skills.

-To build a significantly greater amount of muscle mass:
I go to the gym 4x a week and I already see some differences in about a month and half

-To be a more organized, disciplined, focused student:
This has been the most difficult area to work on. This is particularly hard for me because I have ADHD. Unfortunately, the progress has been small and hard to come in this area, but I'm going to keep working at it!

-To take my guitar playing to the next level:
I started when I was 14 (and I turned 24 a few days ago). Early on, my goal was to be able to play Metallica's best stuff (I used to be a huge fan of theirs). I can play most of it including the solos. But after I reached that goal, my guitar playing has really plateaued. My aim now is to take on some Satriani, which should be quite a bit more challenging.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Dstructor

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- Get some cool belts in Capoeira
- Have energizing fun, with and without people, effortlessly
- Get in touch with who i am, my desires and choose who i want to be

You can say these are my life's goals, the capoeira not so much lol but i do love this game
 
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