That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Ain't that the truth.wootapotky said:Hendrix-Izabella (woodstock version)
Hendrix-Machine Gun
Hendrix-Little Wing
Hendrix-Woodstock Improvisation (although it's really an instrumental)
Hendrix-The Stars That Play with Laughing Sam's Dice
Hendrix-Red House
Hendrix-Hear My Train a comin' (both acoustic and electric)
Cream-Tales of Brave Ulysses
Cream-White Room
Cream-Born Under a Bad Sign
Cream-Deserted Cities of the Heart
Allman Brothers-Don't Want You No More/It's Not My Cross to Bear
Allman Brothers-Blue Sky
Allman Brothers-In Memory of Elizabeth Reed
Clapton-Old Love (Acoustic Version)
Derek and the Dominos-Have You Ever Loved a Woman?
Derek and the Dominos-Why Does Love Got to be So Sad?
Derek and the Dominos-Layla
Roy Buchanan-Sweet Dreams (and a lot of his other stuff, but I don't know the names)
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.