I always get the 'what are you doing?'. Many days are filled with a consistent schedule of a harsh work day, working out every day to keep that underwear model look, eating right, errands, and some rest. I don't have time to do all the 007 or rock star sh1t these chicks seem to be searching for in their inquiry on top of this all of the time. Do you make things up? Half a$$ a couple interests or hobbies for show? I get this alot on holidays too. Thanks..
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
'What are you doing?'
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
R19 said:
Aside from working on having more free time if it interferes with your social life, you're doing fine.
A MAN works, works hard, takes care of himself, takes care of business and remains the best he can be.
In the end if thats not enough for a woman, you're not going to be enough for her period. And those women are not worth your time.
My expereince has been that women have far more respect for a man with your schedule, than some guy who spends his time screwing off and laying around.
'I'm learning how to make you cvm harder...'
Thanks radiodude. I really don't know what they are looking for because, yep, they all just touched down at the local private jet port from lunch in Paris with an afternoon of shopping on the Champs... Sure, it's an innocent question on the surface, but I always get the sense that it's loaded - at least a mild sh1t test. That is, 'I'm b1tch hot and I know you wanna rail me, but I have to make sure you are worth it so every minute of your day should be filled with something beyond my expectations.'
Thanks radiodude. I really don't know what they are looking for because, yep, they all just touched down at the local private jet port from lunch in Paris with an afternoon of shopping on the Champs... Sure, it's an innocent question on the surface, but I always get the sense that it's loaded - at least a mild sh1t test. That is, 'I'm b1tch hot and I know you wanna rail me, but I have to make sure you are worth it so every minute of your day should be filled with something beyond my expectations.'
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I often get this question with a short term focus... as in what are you doing right now / this weekend / this holiday, etc. That is more my area of interest on how to respond vs. what are you doing with yourself in the big picture / long term. Thanks.
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