"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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"what are you doin tonight?"

tryin 2 play

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Whatsup everyone,

Been diggin this girl from my workplace. Known for about 3-4 weeks. She doesn't flirt with me very much and I do not with her too much because the opportunity isn't there because of work. Although once in awhile I give her some C&F and she laughs. When I do see her though she is asking a good amount of questions about me(nothing TOO personal though).
Every single weekend she asks what I am doing for the weekend, and genuinely seems interested. Could she be hinting that she wants to get together? Or maybe just making convo. She also sometimes says that her nights aren't very exciting, and I always make mine seem really exciting. Do you think she is hinting? I am thinking that next time we talk about the wekeend that I will says omething like "hey we should do something sometime." hopefully she says sure and I eill say k give me your number or whatever. Should I just ask or am I just being a ***** for waiting this long?(3-4 weeks) Feel free to tell me if I am haha.

P.S. This is notthe same girl from my previous thread(plane ride). Thats a whole other story lol Thanks n sorry for the long ass post.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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arutha

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Could be either, it is probably just conversation. My response to that kind of stuff, when I am interested, is:

'Why? What did you want to do?'

Makes it immediately look like they are there asking you out not the other way around, and it seems like they don't expect it.. Or haven't with me so far. Kinda suprises them I think. Its worked so far for me.
 

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I think she's diggin' ya. Ball' in your court, ask her out next time she initiates.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by wowiehowie
I think she's diggin' ya. Ball' in your court, ask her out next time she initiates.
Why wait??!! Just tell her that you are going to do [fill in the blank] and that she's have a good time if she came along.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You have obviously never dated a co-worker. Go for it, its a good thing because after this you will never again dip your pen in the company ink.
 

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Well one of my co workers there was a fvck buddy for a few months. After it was done it was no big deal. Maybe this would be different if wedated though i dont know. It's not a job I care about I can get a part time job anywhere if things got that bad I guess.
 

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dating at work is fine and you think everything is ok

until it goes sour, and then it's pure hell. after that, you are like twice burned and will won't make that mistake again

anyway, guy, invite her along to something you're doing on a weekday night first, not a weekend. see how things roll out
 
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