What are the things that have made you change the most as a man?

[tesla8520]

What are the things that have made you change the most as a man and acquired skills that you feel have helped you grow, standing above the average boy or man out there? (Things that still help define you today and are also relevant to attracting women out there)

Not the simple "I train every day and go to the gym, I have good fitness", but things more like challenges, or activities that you have done or do every day that really increase your depth.




For example, I like speaking in public because it lowers my tolerance for social anxiety, the problem is that I have to do it in a controlled and positive environment, because if it involves meetings or debates, and there is usually hatred, it works as the opposite effect.

 

[Solomon]

Learning about finances, i.e. stock market, crypto market, history of currency, etc

I grew up in a household where these things weren't taught. I've always had a 401K at any full-time job I've had. I remember in 2008 when the economy crashed and not understanding why. Fast forward 2015 I started hanging out with some successfull guys, they didn't teach me per se but they kind of gave me direction and I took it from there on my own.

I'm not saying I'm an expert but I know far more about stocks & Crypto now than I did in my 20s and I have made some solid gains

 

[Plinco]

What are the things that have made you change the most as a man and acquired skills that you feel have helped you grow, standing above the average boy or man out there? (Things that still help define you today and are also relevant to attracting women out there)

Not the simple "I train every day and go to the gym, I have good fitness", but things more like challenges, or activities that you have done or do every day that really increase your depth.




For example, I like speaking in public because it lowers my tolerance for social anxiety, the problem is that I have to do it in a controlled and positive environment, because if it involves meetings or debates, and there is usually hatred, it works as the opposite effect.

Three traits I've developed I can think of off hand:

1.) Learned how to write, and therefore communicate and think clearly. I took a remedial writing class when I first got into college and I was lucky enough to have a teacher who drilled into me proper communication.

2.) Gained a philosophic understanding of the origin of knowledge (epistemology). This has allowed me to 100% direct myself without the help of some "authority" figure, and spot bs concepts.

3.) Owning my own business has taught me to be more selfish in my interactions with people, as well as how to better negotiate.


An honorable experience I should mention that I thought about while typing this up, are having near-death experiences. Those taught me to not to procrastinate and to be more selfish as well.

 

[tesla8520]

I like your point 1 and 2, would you tell more? @Plinco