"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What are the best books/threads/sources on Body Language?

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Body Language in reference to dominance, sexuality, etc.

The DJ Bible has a few paragraphs, but I think we should try to get something detailed. If communication is mainly body language, shouldn't there be a bigger focus on that than what to say?

Teach me what you know, or point me in the direction of the knowledge.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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well, since you guys don't know, i bought a book frm amazon.com

not a book, but a TEXTBOOK for people who study this in universities....

I'll let you know how it goes and what information I'm able to apply.
 

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the body languange book by allan pease. :) its a classic.
 

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There's a great book out there on body language that isn't well known in this community. It's called Star Quality: Seven Steps to Develop Your Charismatic Power and it's by Christen Brown. I just looked it up on Amazon and you can get a used hardcover copy of it for $4.70. It's the only book I've ever found on this topic that is full of PRACTICAL tips for improving your body language and communication and I'd highly recommend it.
 

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too much analyzation and phylosophies
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Body Language Secrets- R Don Steele
How to Read a Person Like a Book- Nirenberg (I think)
Winning Moves- Ken Delmar
Instant Rapport- Michael Brooks

Those are the few I could think of.

M
 

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Originally posted by Kidd
too much analyzation and phylosophies
Just trying something in addtion to the DJ bible, to supplement what I feel is my weak area. I've seen myself on camera, and I can seem feminine sometimes, even when I think I'm being normal.

Not analyzing a problem, just looking for a solution.
 

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Originally posted by MRomeo99
Body Language Secrets- R Don Steele
How to Read a Person Like a Book- Nirenberg (I think)
Winning Moves- Ken Delmar
Instant Rapport- Michael Brooks

Those are the few I could think of.

M
Thanks for the list, but those, in my opinion, are crap.

I've read them and got nothing useful out of them. Too much general statements and as Kidd would say, they have "too much analyzation and phylosophies ". I just want something practical that I can apply.
 

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Originally posted by JMBM53
There's a great book out there on body language that isn't well known in this community. It's called Star Quality: Seven Steps to Develop Your Charismatic Power and it's by Christen Brown. I just looked it up on Amazon and you can get a used hardcover copy of it for $4.70. It's the only book I've ever found on this topic that is full of PRACTICAL tips for improving your body language and communication and I'd highly recommend it.
Thx, I'll check it out.
 
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