"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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What are the advantages of building up back muscle?

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I can't really find much information about this area of gym work on the internet anywhere although I am sure there must be benefits to it.

Am I right in thinking the important excercises for this would be chin ups, pull ups, deadlifts and squats? Have I missed any out?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Rows. Lots of them.
One handed rows. Ftw
 

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From a powerlifting stand point, building a bigger back means; Bigger Squat, Bigger Deadlift and a Bigger Bench Press.

Other advantages of having a strong back can improve your posture and prevent injury.

As far as exercises go.. Theres lots of stuff you can do and variations of the exercises.

Lats/Upper Back: Rows of all kinds, Lat Pulls, Pull-Ups, Shrugs, Rear Delts, Face Pulls...

Lower back: Good Mornings, Hyperextensions, Reverse Hypers (if your lucky) 45 degree back raises, Stiff Leg Dead Lifts..

Some exercises will be more isolated and others can hit multiple muscles at once. You'll just have to find what works best for you and your goals.
 

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The back is used in lots of exercises as a stabilizer/secondary muscle so working it hard will improve performance in these other exercises. It's also a larger muscle group so it will act to release for good hormones than say the bi's or tri's

Weighted wide grip pullups are one of my favorite back exercises along with heavy one arm barbell rows
 

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Get a big thick back, to get the hoes in the sack.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Do you guys use 1 arm dumbell rows? And should they be done vertically or moved forwards and backwards during the motion? I have ssen videos saying both are wrong.
 

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yes! do them to failure! back horizontal take them all the way down to the floor/ fully extend the arm - gets the full range in and engages the lats properly.
 

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ok thanks. Do you do the so called "lawn mower" motion or absolutely vertical?
 

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its a pull action, don't swing it - never swing or use momentum on any excercises. Gravity pushes it down, you pull it back up.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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There are several advantages like women will find you more attractive, Handling heavier objects will be easy for you, you will have a lot more energy, you will be in a better mood. Thankfully, my Forearm muscles are strong, so I could've hung on there all day.
 

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Purefilth said:
Rows. Lots of them.
One handed rows. Ftw
I like one handed rows the best, better than regular rows imo. It takes the wind out of you, makes your head woozy by the time you are on your 3rd set, but yes it gives spectacular strength and muscle. It gives me that "high" feeling too, where when you walk away from the gym, you feel like you accomplished something hard. Many people like the feeling of squats but I love the feeling of one handed rows.
 

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Thanks Epsi, I am trying to build my pull ups more, they are pitiful atm.

Unfortunately I've caught a nasty virus that has had me off all excercise for over a week now and has completely drained me of all my energy.

Once I get rid though I will be back in that gym like 5 days a week.
 

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Check out Scott Herman Fitness on YouTube. His videos are really good and he has some great stuff covering the back.
 

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What is a good number of pull ups to be reaching?

When I first started I could only do 1 perfect from pull up. (I could do plenty of chin ups but only 1 pull up).

Now when I'm fresh I can get a set of 14 consecutive pull ups 13 with perfect form and the form just starting to go on the 14th. I don't then try and force out a 15th.

Also does anyone else find pull ups so much harder than chin ups?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Espi said:
In my experience doing pullups with good form has ALWAYS been much harder than doing chin-ups. Also, the wider the grip, the harder they are for me.

Most I've ever done in one set is 17.

These days I aim to do 10-12 PU's in one set and then pyramid down from there on each subsequent set: 12, then 10, then 8, then 6, then 4, then 2. I do my pullups at the very beginning of my back workout or immediately following my set of deadlifts.

FYI the minimum pullups required to be a United States Marine is a mere 3.

http://usmilitary.about.com/od/marines/l/blfitmale.htm
I agree, pronated pullups are much harder than supinated chin ups. A suggestion I have for whoever is interested is this: when doing sets of pull/chin ups, alternate each set between a pronated grip and a supinated grip. I find it helps me bang out more sets than I could sticking with one grip for all sets.

I also find it pathetic that the minimum is 3 for the marines. I hope that is only for brand new recruits, and that once in, the requirements go up. The minimum should be 10 IMO.
 
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