"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

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For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

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What are some good openers for these situations?

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What are some good openers for the following situations in a public setting (eg. mall) if I were to use the cold approach?

A girl who is walking in the opposite direction to you.

A girl who is walking in front of you in the same direction?

A girl who is walking near you in the same direction?

A set of two or more girls walking in the opposite direction to you?

A girl who is sitting on a bench reading the newspaper or magazine by herself?

A set of two or more girls having a conversation?

Basically, how do you open a set if they look like they have to be somewhere? They are going somewhere and the last thing they expect is to be hit on?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Basically, how do you open a set if they look like they have to be somewhere? They are going somewhere and the last thing they expect is to be hit on?
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It's not about her not expecting it, it's a social norm not to stop people that are going somewhere just to small talk. You can always give eye contact and maybe a non-freaky smile, and you may say something witty if she is looking at your general direction and smiling or obviously commenting on your looks or whatever with a friend. If they are waiting around for something, it's perfectly fine to approach, but when they are headed somewhere and you want to stop them just to small-talk, it's nonsense.

A girl who is sitting on a bench reading the newspaper or magazine by herself?
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You can always comment and ask for her opinion about something she is reading, drop a witty line or whatever. You could never learn that by reading what to do, it's about building social skills, feeling confident in your approach and being just plain comfortable with conversing with a complete stranger.
 
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ah what you are referring to is DAY GAME OBSTACLES............Issak Newton said it best.......OBJECTS IN MOTION TEND TO STAY IN MOTION unless acted upon by another force.

In day gaming, time is one of the biggest competition obstacles to overcome.
Meaning your window of opportunity is a small one at best.

I wrote an post a while back about day gaming.........might wanna search DAY GAME.
 
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