"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What are some good openers for these situations?

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What are some good openers for the following situations in a public setting (eg. mall) if I were to use the cold approach?

A girl who is walking in the opposite direction to you.

A girl who is walking in front of you in the same direction?

A girl who is walking near you in the same direction?

A set of two or more girls walking in the opposite direction to you?

A girl who is sitting on a bench reading the newspaper or magazine by herself?

A set of two or more girls having a conversation?

Basically, how do you open a set if they look like they have to be somewhere? They are going somewhere and the last thing they expect is to be hit on?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Basically, how do you open a set if they look like they have to be somewhere? They are going somewhere and the last thing they expect is to be hit on?
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It's not about her not expecting it, it's a social norm not to stop people that are going somewhere just to small talk. You can always give eye contact and maybe a non-freaky smile, and you may say something witty if she is looking at your general direction and smiling or obviously commenting on your looks or whatever with a friend. If they are waiting around for something, it's perfectly fine to approach, but when they are headed somewhere and you want to stop them just to small-talk, it's nonsense.

A girl who is sitting on a bench reading the newspaper or magazine by herself?
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You can always comment and ask for her opinion about something she is reading, drop a witty line or whatever. You could never learn that by reading what to do, it's about building social skills, feeling confident in your approach and being just plain comfortable with conversing with a complete stranger.
 
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ah what you are referring to is DAY GAME OBSTACLES............Issak Newton said it best.......OBJECTS IN MOTION TEND TO STAY IN MOTION unless acted upon by another force.

In day gaming, time is one of the biggest competition obstacles to overcome.
Meaning your window of opportunity is a small one at best.

I wrote an post a while back about day gaming.........might wanna search DAY GAME.
 
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