"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
What are some book recommendations? (No e-books!)
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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- Fictional novel Bad Boy by Olivia Goldsmith or something was pretty good reading, not for "techniques" though, but just a good read in general.
- Secret Garden, forgot the author maybe Nancy Friday, book about womens' fantasies is also worth reading while commuting on the train or whatever. Again not a book full of techniques.
- I don't know of any books for social anxiety per say, but most psychology books written by Phd's from accredited Universities will probably contain some insightful theories. The problem is many people just get a piece of paper from some non-accredited institution so they can have PhD on the book cover and they are no more an expert than some slob living in a trailor with a 6th grade reading level. I would also make sure that the person, at the very least, received from their PhD from an accredited University (state schools or big name private schools should be easy to ID, anything else and it's suspect, if you can't find it in the America's best colleges database, it's probably a paper mill for degrees).
-I've gained some useful insight thumbing through Cosmos and reading womens' posts about relationships on other forums.
-Nothing trumps first hand experience with women and being around lots of people to really solidify thoughts and realize the diversity and sometimes jaw dropping predictability of human behavior.
-There is a ton of books on picking up women and such out there, I don't think you really need to read all of those, some of them have questionable authors and ambigious "tips", but many contain nuggets of useful information making them worthwhile. Sydnee Steele has a book called seducing your woman that's worth playing around with.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Daddy The Pimp
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In my opinion , The Game is a MUST READ to get in the seduction world .HandyAndy said:The Game, its overrated but its a worthwhile book
The Art of Seduction
Youll know masters , youll know how all started and everything .
Also , its entertaining .
Guitar_Whizz
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Actually, I would say DO NOT read paperbacks or hardbacks, as these are usually mainstream, and we all know mainstream dating advice is bullsh*t.
Read some ebooks, as they are written by dating gurus from the seduction community....the only place where we can get the TRUTH on women!
Read 'Double Your Dating' by David DeAngelo. Read Mike Pilinski's ebooks (www.highstatusmale.com). Read 'How to be an Alpha Male' by John Alexander. Read 'Be Relentless' by David X. All excellent ebooks.
Books are ok for some theory, but get out there and work your ass off if you want some action. Like I said, it's called CONDITIONING.lazikia said:What are some books (paperback or hardback) that you guys recommend on seduction, being suave, social anxiety, etc? I was reading one called "how to succeed with women" the other day and it sounded worthwhile. Anything else?
Does an athlete get a six pack by reading?
Does a musician become famous by reading?
Does a DJ become a DJ by reading?
Just like anything else in life, you have to CONDITION yourself to become good. Think of it as a plane taking off, the more you condition yourself, the easier the take off will be and the rest of the ride will be smooth sailing.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.