"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
What are some book recommendations? (No e-books!)
- Thread starter lazikia
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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- Fictional novel Bad Boy by Olivia Goldsmith or something was pretty good reading, not for "techniques" though, but just a good read in general.
- Secret Garden, forgot the author maybe Nancy Friday, book about womens' fantasies is also worth reading while commuting on the train or whatever. Again not a book full of techniques.
- I don't know of any books for social anxiety per say, but most psychology books written by Phd's from accredited Universities will probably contain some insightful theories. The problem is many people just get a piece of paper from some non-accredited institution so they can have PhD on the book cover and they are no more an expert than some slob living in a trailor with a 6th grade reading level. I would also make sure that the person, at the very least, received from their PhD from an accredited University (state schools or big name private schools should be easy to ID, anything else and it's suspect, if you can't find it in the America's best colleges database, it's probably a paper mill for degrees).
-I've gained some useful insight thumbing through Cosmos and reading womens' posts about relationships on other forums.
-Nothing trumps first hand experience with women and being around lots of people to really solidify thoughts and realize the diversity and sometimes jaw dropping predictability of human behavior.
-There is a ton of books on picking up women and such out there, I don't think you really need to read all of those, some of them have questionable authors and ambigious "tips", but many contain nuggets of useful information making them worthwhile. Sydnee Steele has a book called seducing your woman that's worth playing around with.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Daddy The Pimp
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In my opinion , The Game is a MUST READ to get in the seduction world .HandyAndy said:The Game, its overrated but its a worthwhile book
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Youll know masters , youll know how all started and everything .
Also , its entertaining .
Guitar_Whizz
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Actually, I would say DO NOT read paperbacks or hardbacks, as these are usually mainstream, and we all know mainstream dating advice is bullsh*t.
Read some ebooks, as they are written by dating gurus from the seduction community....the only place where we can get the TRUTH on women!
Read 'Double Your Dating' by David DeAngelo. Read Mike Pilinski's ebooks (www.highstatusmale.com). Read 'How to be an Alpha Male' by John Alexander. Read 'Be Relentless' by David X. All excellent ebooks.
Books are ok for some theory, but get out there and work your ass off if you want some action. Like I said, it's called CONDITIONING.lazikia said:What are some books (paperback or hardback) that you guys recommend on seduction, being suave, social anxiety, etc? I was reading one called "how to succeed with women" the other day and it sounded worthwhile. Anything else?
Does an athlete get a six pack by reading?
Does a musician become famous by reading?
Does a DJ become a DJ by reading?
Just like anything else in life, you have to CONDITION yourself to become good. Think of it as a plane taking off, the more you condition yourself, the easier the take off will be and the rest of the ride will be smooth sailing.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.