"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Rock Steady

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Is this super aggressive girl just an AW?

Ok.. so with 20 views and no responses, I'm thinking I need to shorten this up a little bit.

Basically, I met this girl(not at all trying to pick her up) about a year ago while I was in an LTR. I didn't pursue because I was honoring the relationship I was in. We ran into each other often(she tended bar at my bar), and became friends. We were flirty, but I never took it any further.

Fast forward, we ran into each other a handful of times over the past year out of where she worked, and she showed high interest in me(propositioned me for sex, etc..), but I turned her down on account of my status(not being single). My relationship went on the rocks, and we hung out a couple times when my girlfriend and I were in hard times.
She continued coming onto me, despite her having a boyfriend now, still propositioning me for sex on account of her wanting me for so long. She was very physical on a couple occasions, taking me back to her house to her room, where I was forced to leave or suffer certain rape. She would grab me and start aggressively making out with me. I was begged more than once for sex, to which I declined(for the sake of my integrity, to which I am not ashamed or regretful).

Since my girlfriend and I have officially broken up, the girl and I have hung out a few times, and each time she seems increasingly aggressive in public settings(making out with me, rubbing my junk, pulling my hands to her tits, talking dirty, and I mean DIRTY to me), buying me drinks, etc.. but when it comes down to sealing the deal, she'll shy away or give an excuse, mostly pertaining to the boyfriend(the same one she was begging me to have sex with her behind his back).

What are you guys' opinions on this(I'm pretty sure I know what the majority consensus will be)? I know she's not relationship material for MANY reasons, but I'm just wondering if I should ghost. I live in a VERY small town with VERY limited selection, and she's a pretty hot number. Every guy I know wants to bed her, but she doesn't 'get around'(in a small town, you know who does and who doesn't).

Thanks!
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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jester1x

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Isolate her and put some moves on her. She's either going to follow through or come up with some excuse. If I got an excuse then I'd eject. But, be friendly and cordial when you see her but nothing more.

Think about it though. Would you like it if she acted the same way towards another guy if you were her boyfriend?

You could eat filet mignon for two weeks straight but then get excited for a ham and cheese sandwich. What I"m saying is anything gets old...even the hottest 10. Is there more to her than just a pretty face?

I wouldn't invest anymore thought or energy necessary to get the lay. Sounds like a major tease but you should try to put your mind at ease.
 

Slickster

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Sounds like she's using you to boost her own ego. ie. make you want her.
 
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