What am i doing wrong?

[Life-Trainee]

I live in Boston. Probably one of the best cities to pick up college girls right? Well, it's proving to be harder than I imagined. I got an e-mail and a phone # last week from relatively average but cute girls. Neither one had responded yet. I went into the city today and attempted to PU at the library, book store and city park. Got shot down in both places by 5 different people. I know cold approaches aren't supposed to be easy but I think I need something more than a will to do this. I think my looks aren't helping me either. I'm not ugly ok, but I do have boyish looks (people give me 17-20 range) in addition that I don't dress sophisticated, i also have a pretty slim physique. Some people would be surprised that I have this problem. I think I act confident, once I begin convo i'm in full auto mode. Sure some of my approaches may be socially awkward but what the hell am I supposed to do? All of my outgoing friends are in LTRs so I have no one to go to clubs with. I went to the clubs couple of times, but it's too loud in there to even hear myself, and too crowded. Most HOs in those clubs also seem to be there to exercise their egos. And there seems to be more guys on the sides than gals. I'm really frustrated. I don't seem to have to many opportunities to attend social places and meet decent people at all. College that I go to is full of AFCs (technical college) and all the hot HOs are taken. I'm pretty much on my own.

 

[tactic]

soo what are you trying to ask us??

go out someplace else not just college and meet the pros

 

[matius]

Not true, my technical college was cool and I did fairly well. The fact that you have been taking chances is great, that's the only way to build your confidence. If you keep on approaching women, and putting yourself in social environments you will find yourself with numbers and people to hang with.

Another thing to think about is...try approaching them as friends and not some grease-ball slime bucket looking to get laid (not saying you are doing that). Just saying that when you are a confident, sociable person in social settings, you will not have problems meeting people who could hook you up.

I know that in a college town close to where I live, it is fairly easy to meet girls. Usually they're with a group of friends drinking, and you're drunk so what the hell...just go up and say hello. You're trying to simply meet people remember. If she thinks you want sex right off the bat...just look at her with a shi t eatin' grin and move on to the next. She's too full of herself anyway

 

[Life-Trainee]

I don't know, i don't feel like I even belong in some of these places that I go to. I don't like people for the most part, because I think they're full of schit. I dont enjoy talking to random people about some random crap. But i've been trying very hard and very patient yet I yield no success. Maybe it's to apparent that I'm trying to hard to be something I'm not? I'm not exercising any exuberant facades of myself, i'm just trying to be social me. At the parties i often manifest my neediness for attention but when I'm out in the open by myself i just shut down.

 

[tactic]

no man, experience. wisdom.faith.

try doing something you like, and itll help...just keep at it. if they're all AFC, learn by yourself. don't mean to sound harsh though, bro... its basically what all these DJs did.

 

[kairos]

You need to make sure you work on your approach, make sure you have some standard lines and rehearse the whole damn thing fully until you don't go blank. Basically you need a script, flexible, but predictable, then go out and try it like 10 times and see how it works. Check out David D. , he talks about this well....don't worry, most likely your making newbie mistakes.

Importantly, work on your body language, people can sense lack of confidence very easily, make sure your movements are slow and keep the pick-up convos very matter-of-fact, like this is the most normal thing in the world. You should feel better then....

kairos