"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What am I doing wrong when I approach

Dhoulmagus

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I'll approach them and attempt to talk to them. 99% of the time they leave within 3 minutes with her friends or walks away. The girls I have gotten were at least recipicative and flirty with me. I'm just basing interested girls from my only successful experiences. Either they treat me like c02 or tease.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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foreverAFC

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welcome to the club bro
 

sylvester the cat

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you're approaching so that's good. but what are you saying? post a few examples. also a picture of what you look like would be good.
 

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I'll just walk up to them at parties and do a simple greet. I rarely get past this part because they walk away or something. No interest whatsoever.
 

sylvester the cat

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that's the way it goes. keep going until you 'pop'.

'popping' is the point of no return. the point when you don't give a f**k if they're interested or not and when you've accepted you'll spend the rest of your life alone. after you've popped is when you'll start getting responses. trust me.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Johnny Alias

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Try a new tact. Approach with a wingman that doesn't give a crap. A guy with a wife or girlfriend. Someone who's genuinely funny and can break the ice. That's what friends are for. Women make great wings too.

Also try having friends make introductions. If its at a party odds are someone knows the gal or gals. Women put there guard up big time if they don't know you and unless your game is good enough to disarm it then youre hosed. If they meet you through a mutual friend it takes the defenses down some.

My two cents. Good luck.
 

Starfvcks 64

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I really don't care if a girl doesn't react well when I approach.
She's obviously a lesbian, so whatever.

Parties are completely different than approaching girls in public, and the biggest difference is exactly what you're having problems with:
They go back with their friends, or talk to someone else.

In a public setting, you can just approach, talk for a bit, get her number, and leave because you both have other shlt to do.
For my personality and lifestyle that way always works the best for a number of reasons.

An important thing to remember about parties is that you shouldn't talk to the same girl for too long.
If there's a spark, great. Get a little fire going.
Then go talk to some other girl. Then go back to your "target".
Your target will now see you as more valuable because she saw you talking to that other slvt and wants to have you to herself.
You should be escalating physically at parties too. That's how you speed the process up.

Girls know how the game works, and she expects you to come chasing when she runs back to her friends. Fvck that.
Show her how little you care about her, and suddenly you are a lot more interesting.
 

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Patience, You Must Learn Patience

Dhoulmagus said:
I'll approach them and attempt to talk to them. 99% of the time they leave within 3 minutes with her friends or walks away. The girls I have gotten were at least recipicative and flirty with me. I'm just basing interested girls from my only successful experiences. Either they treat me like c02 or tease.
It's called the "learning curve," and everybody has to through it. Payroll on "American Pimp, the Raw Outakes and the Hard Truth," said (in referring to a hoe that ran off,) said that "a pimp has to go through thousand hoes before you get to that one true prostitute. Right now, I'm on nine hundred and ninety-nine."

The same with you, you have to go through a gang of hoes before you finally get to that one hoe who's trying to eff with you. Until then, you have to stay at it, minimize or (preferably eliminate) the things that are turning women off to you, and play up and improve your strengths.
 
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Maximus Rex said:
It's called the "learning curve," and everybody has to through it. Payroll on "American Pimp, the Raw Outakes and the Hard Truth," said (in referring to a hoe that ran off,) said that "a pimp has to go through thousand hoes before you get to that one true prostitute. Right now, I'm on nine hundred and ninety-nine."

The same with you, you have to go through a gang of hoes before you finally get to that one hoes who's trying to eff with you. Until then, you have to stay at it, minimize or (preferably eliminate) the things that are turning women off to you, and play up and improve your strengths.
This. Trust the process. Keep going. Your next stumbling block will be that you're talking to women for 20-30 minutes but nothing happens. Then you'll realize you need to touch them.
 

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I am going through the same thing but I keep shooting myself in the foot as most times as they show interest but I keep stuffing up by the saying the wrong thing or pissing them off by being too ****y & funny or negging too much.

I remember reading, you have to see yourself as if you're playing a video game where you're the character like Mario trying to get through the end. All these girls are just obstacles. The princess is not some special hoe at the end but its actually yourself. Yes, it's actually yourself, who has changed over time after all the rejections and obstacles. Its actually you, who is now become the Don Juan. The man with plenty of options, whose life has meaning, bla bla bla... But you must go thru this to get there. This is how I see it, so after I get rejected, oops press restart and I am back in again.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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