"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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What am I doing wrong here?

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GF broke up with me yesterday because there wasn't any "tenderness" in the relationship and I was too "harsh" with her, not "soft" enough (her words). Also she thinks I'm selfish. We'd been going out for a month and a half.

Thing is, my other ex almost broke up with me after the same period of time for the exact same reasons! Although we eventually worked things out, it all went slowly downhill until I eventually broke up with her. Any ideas here guys? What exactly do they mean with this? Is this chick talk for something else? It pisses me off because it feels like I'm making the same mistakes over and over again, and I really liked this girl. I have no problem getting the initial attraction and escalating, getting things to the point where the girl wants a relationship, but judging from this I'm total crap at what comes next.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I think I see your point. So basically when in a relationship I should show the girl I value her and that I'm there for her? Even at the start of the relationship. Maybe a stupid question but over the last few years I've done a complete 180 after coming to these forums and it seems I've gone too far.
 
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Turn down c&f when you're in a relationship. Also, you have to "soften up" and tell her "cute things" in her ear; she will completely melt. Women ultimately want an alpha male, but they also want to be protected. Try being sweet to her and hugging her from behind, kissing her shoulders and say her voice alone makes you smile.

They want to feel wanted; they like you to show them you have feelings. This is exactly the reason why some girls fall for some douche bags. Make sense?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Balance, balance. Be an Alpha, but remember, an alpha takes care of his family and shows love when he needs to. Loving but firm. Loving, but in control. Loving but not to the point of "OMG ILL NEVER LEAVE UUU"
 
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Thanks for the tips guys, makes a lot of sense. What kind of "sweet stuff" do you say? I do the hugging from behind etc. like robyn923b suggested and I like that stuff but I'm clueless on what to say.
 
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Saying "sweet stuff" isn't going to fix anything.


Maybe you're more selfish than you think you are.

Did you actually care about her? Did you act like it? Did you maybe act ****y to try to cover up some other emotions?
 
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