To put it simply, just as most men do not respect women who casually and easily give away intimacy, most women don't respect men who casually and easily give away their exclusitivity and commitment. I don't know if it's ever ben stated that way on here before, but that is the way I've been looking at the concept of AFC.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
What AFCism is essentially
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
Interceptor
Master Don Juan
The AFC is really a guy who doesnt understand himself. Doesnt understand women. Doesnt understand attraction. Doesnt have his Values and Identity. Settles for anything. And tolerates low class behavior from women.He presents women with "gifts" instead of HIM SELF. He feels inadequate. And is often uncomfortable with displays of Masculinity. He is often uncomfortable with sexual women, and women's sexuality in general.
He is insecure. Seeks approval and validation. And many either hate women or look at women as perfect "Angels". He has an immature perspective on relationships. He is in Love with 'Love' and over romanticizes Love.
He is so attached to the validation and approval of women, that he allows himself to be a doormat and cannot walk away until pushed beyond his breaking point.
He is insecure. Seeks approval and validation. And many either hate women or look at women as perfect "Angels". He has an immature perspective on relationships. He is in Love with 'Love' and over romanticizes Love.
He is so attached to the validation and approval of women, that he allows himself to be a doormat and cannot walk away until pushed beyond his breaking point.
I'd say we are in agreement of what AFCism is fundamentally. It centers around offering a woman exclusitivity before she's earned it. You went into good detail. I was just trying to reduce it to the most reduced version.Rollo Tomassi said:
I'd say this is most guys. That was a good list of qualities an AFC can have. I actually don't believe a person can or needs to fix everything internally and be perfect first to get girls. He just has to put on an appearance that is good enough and positive results will be a postive feedback loop. I was just getting at what essentially is being a AFC from a woman's perspective is.Interceptor said:
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
ketostix said:
I agree. A guy doesn't need to fix anything to get a girl. Getting the girl is only the beginning and the easy part. The true test is in how you deal with them without melting into some needy, insecure and stunted male who has not built a solid foundation in himself to weather the onslaught of today's women of the Matrix.
An AFC is a slave to the Matrix and women can sense it in a heartbeat and many use them like a parasite to feed their own stunted maturity. The Matrix has evolved for women to devour AFCs who have not given a second thought to what anything means. Essentially, an AFC from a woman's perspective is a slave to her whims and is not the master of his domain. Cheers!