"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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What about girls chasing you?

AcerGuild

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Do you guys really like when a chick is chasing you, sending those 'sweet' texts that girls send, making the calls and stuff? Do you like that girl better, the one who lets you know how much she likes you? The girl who gives you lots of attention. You know the ones I mean. Not like begging - I really hate that - but the girl who lets you know she's thinking about you a lot..

I still feel like i like a girl better when I've had to work for her..the ones that are too easy or too affectionate or show me too much attention, I just don't go for those so much. Guess that's my AFC way..
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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AAAgent

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When i want a relationship i'd prefer to chase and win the girl over. if the girl is chasing me imagine how many other guys she's hounded down and fvcked. Atleast that's how i think. I had to choose before, between a fine ass chick that was in love with me, or the chick i was chasing at the time who was maybe a 6. the fine chick was like a 8.5. i chose the chick i was chasing because i guess she felt like more of a prize to me. In the end both were bad choices. there was actually a 3rd one but she was like last choice. 8.5 had an std, and 6.5 was fvcking bpd. the 3rd choice was a girl cheating on her bf with me and some other guys.
 

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i'd prefer a nice balance if that's possible.

i had a girl who was very affectionate and cute as heck. but her knowing info. on me that i remember not telling her creeped me out, and i had to break it.

the other girl, on the hand, was too aloof.

i was attracted to both, and they were hard to let go off.
 

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I definitely prefer when a woman is chasing me.

And let me make this clear: I will not chase a woman. Any woman for that matter...

'I don't chasem' I replacem'

There's too many out there to chase down one girl. I also look way back in the past at when I used to 'chase' women and 'please' them.. you know what? It always had negative consequences. Whenever I've let a woman chase me, she's come on strong no matter what f*cked up sh!t I've done. I'm like her drug, she'll take me even if that means wronging her friends and family. A damn shame :)

I've been living happily for the past few years having women chase me around. It's a good feeling to turn down a woman when she asks to hang out simply because you've just been seeing too many women lately. Sure, they eventually drop due to frustration, however trust me they drop MUCH quicker if you're chasing them. Either way, there's plenty of fish in the sea. Chasing is indeed a losing man's game and isn't like seen in the movies AT ALL.
 

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It's always best to let the women chase you.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You need to chase a little bit. Girls will give up for the same reasons guys will give up. Of course, if you have a huge harem then you shouldn't care about girls who give up, but for most of us I think we shouldn't be too proud to chase a girl a little bit.
 

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Alright fellas maybe i'm missing the point here about chasing. Clarifying for me with examples of her chasing? Do you guys mean after you get the number close and show interest then become indifferent(building the initial attraction)? Once your in a relationship does the chasing stop?

I'm in a new/exclusive relationship for about 7 weeks now. We hangout 2-3 times a week, have gotten s** 7 times. We call and talk every night. I want her to become more invested, and do some chasing. Give me some pointers?
When does it become mutual the chasing (after s**)?
 

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Hey tmac15, I'm generally talking about after the first date onwards.

If you're calling your chick every night I think (but what the fvck do I know?) that you're lowering your value and she'll get bored soon. you need to up your game - it's all too easy for her.
 

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tmac15 said:
Alright fellas maybe i'm missing the point here about chasing. Clarifying for me with examples of her chasing? Do you guys mean after you get the number close and show interest then become indifferent(building the initial attraction)? Once your in a relationship does the chasing stop?

I'm in a new/exclusive relationship for about 7 weeks now. We hangout 2-3 times a week, have gotten s** 7 times. We call and talk every night. I want her to become more invested, and do some chasing. Give me some pointers?
When does it become mutual the chasing (after s**)?
A good way to get the girl more invested is by having better things in your life. Even doing things that are not really more interesting than her are good, the idea is to make her believe that they are.
This is parallel to having abundancy of girls, if a girl knows that you have more prospects, and that she can be quickly replaced, she will do more to get your attention.
 

r0cky

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AcerGuild said:
Hey tmac15, I'm generally talking about after the first date onwards.

If you're calling your chick every night I think (but what the fvck do I know?) that you're lowering your value and she'll get bored soon. you need to up your game - it's all too easy for her.
Not if the convo is interesting.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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AcerGuild said:
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I still feel like i like a girl better when I've had to work for her..the ones that are too easy or too affectionate or show me too much attention, I just don't go for those so much.

You mean they are not hot enough for you to go for. If Megan Fox showed you attention don't tell me you wouldn't be all over that.


Guess that's my AFC way..
It's usually the ones that aren't very good looking give more attention because they have to. The laws of life...
 
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